Jooky

Thanx for the reply and advice - i'll try to talk to him bout telling her to settle down. He just gets so *beep* wild when i mention her name. I guess he's sick of hearing about it. But if he did sumthing about it i wouldn't mention it again. Do you know what i mean?

This is what created the argument that made him be so nasty. He has had this chick who's been his friend for years - not really close but they had a one night stand before i got together with him. I trust him completely but this chick is driving me insane. I know some of his other exes which he is still friends with and it doesn't bother me at all - they're my mates too. But this girl is known as the local slapper and she has admitted to going for guys with girlfriends. She has tried to break us up before by telling lies to him but it didn't work. However last night in the pub she was flirting and all over him. When we got home i asked him about it & said she was flirting with him. He said he didn't even notice. I know i sound really jelous...i am but i'm scared bout losing him. Anyway we got in a full blown argument and he was really cruel. But honestly what do i do bout this chick? She's out to get at me. We have never seen eye to eye. Please help!!

Thanx heaps for replying. I'll give it a try. It's so hard when u love someone and you don't wanna leave even though you know it's the best option. ANyway's i'll let you know.

My boyfriend and i have been together for a year and are living together. We have had rough patches but i know he loves me but when we get into an argument he says some pretty bull s*#t stuff that really hurts. He's told me i'm too fat and unless i lose weight i can leave...I'm a size 12 NZ. And other things like noone likes me in our group of friends. I know it's not true. But i can't understand why he says it. It's like he tries to kill any self esteem that i have. I would never do anything to hurt him and i'm always trying to make things better. I really do love him, and when things are good he really shows he cares. I just don't get why he has to be so hurtful in arguments...he is never wrong!! Has anyone out there got any advice on how to sort this out or why he'd do it?