Betty Boop

Hi Mike Yes mail can be re-directed, he has done that with some of his stuff. I don't know what any of the mail is, or whether it's important or not. A lot of stuff is in both names, connected to mortgage, insurance, bank stuff etc, suppose he's entitled to see that. I don't want to be leaving mail in a bag outside in case it goes missing. I don't know what to do when I need to speak to him about joint finance etc, I can't not talk to him, so where do I go with NC. I wish this would all just go away.

Hi All NC for 11 days now, not too hard for me, felt I was having to take a bit of control of my situation. He comes around every 2 weeks or so to see friends and pops in to see me and to collect mail, I find it all a bit of a strain, I feel awkward as I don't know how to react to him, seems strange as I am still living in the house we bought together and have been staying in it alone since he left me in June. Maybe that's another reason for the awkwardness, it's our house, but we are apart, his choice not mine. I started NC as I just felt that he has controlled everything up till now, he's chosen his life, but also chosen mine, a life I don't want, I wanted us to stay together and grow old together, we were so happy once upon a time, I don't know where it all went wrong. Anyway since I decided on NC I didn't know what to do with his mail, don't know how much of it is important stuff, suppose he could have phoned to see if there was ay for him, but he chose not to. In spite of myself, in spite of NC, I had to text him to tell him it was here, and did he want me to post it to his work, he won't give me his new address. He replied saying that he would come down and collect it through the week if that was ok, I said ok. Will still feel very awkward when he comes round, I must find another way of getting his mail to him, the last connection and reason for him coming to the house. Did I did the right thing? what do you think. This is my story