In what was your classify them as "drastically different"? The basic human condition is pretty much the same for everyone. Most people yearn for love, companionship, intimacy, etc.
I mean, I'm a gay guy and frequent quite a few LGBT forums. The same dating dilemmas that arise on straight forums are pretty much the same that arise on the gay ones. People stress about how to initiate, how to meet new people, how to manage relationships early, etc.
In any case, I don't want to derail your thread. I'm just doubting the premiss that you need to view dating through the lens of viewing men and women as very different kinds of people. Because I honestly don't really see that. If anything, gender differences tend to get overblown and made into the scapegoat for why relationships fail. When in reality the very same things occur even in relationships where there are no gender differences.