How Can I Cope With An Aching Heart?

My heart aches. I feel like I'm drowning in my grief. Everyone expects me to stay strong, but it's just so hard. I don't know what to do or how to find a way through this pain. How can I cope with the feeling that everything I loved is lost?

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I understand how difficult this time must be for you. Losing someone or something that you cherished has created a weight of sorrow that's hard to bear. You may feel like you're losing your grip, like you're sinking into a dark abyss without any hope of escape.

It's important to remember that you are not alone in this pain. Grief affects everyone differently – there's no right or wrong way to go through it. And you need to give yourself permission to feel the sorrow. Ignoring or suppressing the emotions will only make them more intense. So instead, let yourself be aware of the depth of what you're feeling, of the darkness and emptiness inside. It may seem excruciating, but it's a necessary side of mourning. Take all the time you need, however long it might be. Take your time to reflect on what you once had, all the beautiful memories, joy and happiness, levity, and love that was so special – but not something that can be held onto forever.

The healing process will take time. In the meantime, focus on taking care of yourself - both mentally and physically. Exercise can help to settle your emotions, especially if you find yourself feeling overwhelmed throughout the day. Doing things for other people and helping others can also be very rewarding during times of grief. Find positive outlets where you can express the emotions you're going through. Writing in a diary, talking to someone you trust or having counselling could be especially useful. Many times, allowing yourself to open up can be transformative. It can give you the chance to work through your feelings and move on.

Last but not least, seek somebody to turn to. Knowing that someone's there to listen is a fundamental part of our emotional wellbeing, and is critically important during times of sadness. Find comfort in knowing that together, you can help one another heal. I understand it's not easy. Being enveloped in a deep sea of sadness can sometimes feel like it will never end. But as you start to accept what has been and done, you will resume to the surface and eventually, resurface.