Many of us have gone through the experience of unrequited love at some point in our lives. Experiencing this kind of love can be a confusing and painful process that affects us to our very core. It can feel like the weight of the world is pressing down on us and keeps us bound in a sea of sorrow. If you are currently experiencing such heartache from an intense love for a married man, then you have come to the right place. We are here to offer a few words of advice on how to move on despite the roller coaster of emotions you may feel.
To begin with, it is important to acknowledge the fact that this situation isn’t your fault. If he is indeed married, then the decision of faithfulness rests solely on him, and you have nothing to be ashamed of. You have done nothing wrong and it is essential to remind yourself of this truth.
In order to cope with this situation, it is necessary to face up to the gravity of how you feel rather than keeping these feelings buried inside. To do so, seek out a close friend or therapist who is impartial and can provide a listening ear and empathetic advice. Having a discussion with a trusted confidant can help you to put words to your sorrows and to make sense of them. Once the weight of limbo has been unloaded and you have put these feelings into tangible concepts then you can turn your attention to the necessary next step: healing.
Treating yourself like you would a friend can be hugely beneficial when committing to this healing process. Resist the urge to reproach yourself for being in this situation and instead focus on showing yourself kindness, as we can often be our own worse enemies. Banish toxic thoughts and fill your life with positive mantras. If needed, implement a self-care plan to give routine and structure to your recovery. Identify activities that bring you joy and set time aside to pursue them wholeheartedly. Try to be mindful of your day-to-day existence, cultivated appreciation for each moment that passes. Channeling positive energy into your health and wellbeing can be profoundly healing during this time.
The road to healing can also be reached by redefining your understanding of what love means. Explore ways to frame love in broader terms and accept that it doesn’t necessarily need to manifest physically. Devise methods of showing and receiving love in alternative ways, such as by meditating and connecting with the divine, forming loving relationships with friends and family, or through creativity. Commit to understanding and connecting with both yourself and those around you.
If needed, take measured steps away from the situation. That might mean taking a short social media break to reduce possible triggers or making a conscious effort to avoid mutual places. Carve out the space and time your soul needs to reconnect and heal, so that a positive new future for you can begin to emerge.
No matter how challenging this situation may seem, you can get through it. Love comes in many forms, and although it can have devastating effects, you should view these as a reminder of your strength. Learning to love yourself is the greatest lesson of all, and in doing so you will come to realize that you are more than just a victim to unrequited love – you are strong, courageous, and free.
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