How Do I Ask Out My Crush?

Dear eNotAlone: I've been crushing on this girl for a while, but I don't know if I should tell her how I feel about her. I've been having conflicted feelings about whether or not to try to make the move and ask her out. On the one hand, I'm worried that it will scare her off if I take things too fast, but on the other hand, I'm running out of time since she'll be transferring schools soon. What should I do?

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Making the move can be nerve-wracking, especially if you don't know how the other person will react. However, if you're ready to take your relationship to the next level, there are certain things you can do to make it easier. First, take the time to get to know her better; this may include talking with her more often or even hanging out in a group. Strike up conversations to learn more about her interests and values. It's important to be yourself and give genuine compliments without being too overbearing. It's also helpful to remind yourself that there's no right or wrong answer; some people just haven't decided yet.

Above all, remember that every romantic situation is unique. It can help to listen to your gut and trust what it's telling you. If your feelings are strong enough and you think she might like you in return, then expressing your feelings could be the right decision. Even if she doesn't feel the same way, at least you can rest easy knowing that you took a chance and it didn't work out. If you're still unsure, consider talking to a trusted friend who can give you an unbiased opinion and honest advice.

As difficult as it might be, have patience. Many relationships unfold gradually, so it might take some time until both you and she are ready for the next step. With clear communication, an open heart, and a healthy dose of courage, you can be confident that whatever happens, you'll handle it.