Mejane:
I was involved with another man outside my marriage this past summer. My husband and I are now separated because of it. I am glad we are separated (but it still hurts), but I am also glad that I went NC with a vengeance on the OM.
Do the NC, I promise you you will be happier if you do and quite relieved. Even the perspective of a few weeks in the mentality of never having him in your life even as an option is extremely stress-relieving and eye-opening. In a short time, you will see how utterly wrong he is for you.
Joeshabadoe:
I sense that your words are the product of lack of experience. For that we can forgive your severe insensitivity. Please do others here a favor and stick to dispensing advice on topics with which you are familiar and perhaps have the ability to feel empathy for. Thanks.
--Law