not sure what to do

[fatalblow]

i have been smoking 4 2 yrs and know i hardley go to skool and i cut myself i just feel like my life is falling apart all i really ever do is sit around and smoke

[jengh]

you started smoking when you were 12? And you're from michigan? I am too and I know how depressing it can get in the winter time. I can also guarantee that if you quit now (or at least cut back), it will be a million times easier for you than if you try and quit 10 years from now.

 

Edit: I just realized that didn't come out as nice as I meant to... I mean you no disrespect, just trying to better understand your situation

[HurleyBabe6917]

Use your will power and throw away all your lighters, ash trays, and cigs.

 

My Dad went to a hypnotist to quit smoking. It didn't work. So he jsut decided on the way home that he didn't need to have someone else try and help him to quit smoking. It was him who needed to do it. So, he threw his stuff out the window and has been smoke free for over 5 years.

 

It's all about the will power.

[fatalblow]

i tried quitting b4 and started doin other drugs and cutting

[jengh]

Is there anyone you can talk to about this? Self-injury is a very bad habit to get into. Are you able to talk to any of your close friends? I remember being 14. I was the same way you are now. I smoked, I cut... I was miserable. Just k now you're not alone. If you need to talk, please feel free to PM me anytime

[fatalblow]

all my friends r like the same way

[HurleyBabe6917]

Well... I guess you just gotta keep trying and get some will power. You can't just sit there and dwell on you. You have to take action. Buy some suckers or gum, and everytime you want a cig, just have a sucker or chew some gum. Don't just give up, and don't do drugs or cut, because you'll only get worse.

[HurleyBabe6917]

You need to start hanging out with other kids then. Don't put yourself in those kinds of situations.

[jengh]

Because smoking is more of a 2-part addiction, which do you feel is hardest for you, the chemical addiction (i.e. nicotine) or the physical/mental addiction (i.e. the movement of your hand to your mouth)?

[fatalblow]

they been my best friends since 1st grage and were in 9th now we all love each other dearly

[fatalblow]

the hand one and nicotine and cigs calm me down\

[jengh]

If you're willing to tell me, I'm wondering what is the cause for all of this self-harm? Was there any sort of physical or sexual abuse? Verbal abuse?

[fatalblow]

when i was 5 my stepdad sexually abused me and physically abused me

[jengh]

if you're willing to talk to a doctor, they could prescribe to you these little things that act as cigarettes. they don't smoke, but when you feel the need for a cigarette, you puff on them and they release nicotine.

 

Or, you could try the gum? Or the patch?

 

Do your parents know what's going on?

[jengh]

when i was 5 my stepdad sexually abused me and physically abused me

 

I'm really sorry to hear that... was this reported? Have you tried counseling?

[fatalblow]

yes they sent me to counseling and it made me wanna do it more cuz they told me all the bad stuff and i guess it provoked me now i dont wanna stop cuz i guess im waitin 4 this stuff to just kill me

[jengh]

you need to take control. it's your life. you're the only one who can truly choose your own outcome. It sounds a lot easier than it is. I know. I was raped too and that caused so much of my depression. There are a lot of people who care about you. Are you suicidal or more along the lines of experimenting with cutting?

[fatalblow]

i guess suicidal i onetime slit my wrist so deep i was rushed to the e.r

[Mythical_Suicide]

if you're willing to talk to a doctor, they could prescribe to you these little things that act as cigarettes. they don't smoke, but when you feel the need for a cigarette, you puff on them and they release nicotine.

 

Or, you could try the gum? Or the patch?

 

Do your parents know what's going on?

 

 

Do you realize this girl is 14, no doctor can giver her anything with nicotine in it. Nor can she buy the gum or patch.

 

Hun, i've been in your shoes once before and I Know it isn't a fun place to be. I never smoked but I did the drugs, self mutilation, hanging out with a bad crowd, ETC. The best advice I can give you is to talk to a counselor at school explain everything to them, get you a new group of friends and get away from the cigaretes adn drugs and self mutilitation now while you're still young and have your whole life ahead of you. Otherwise you will regret the things later on. I have scars on my arms and thighs from self mutilation that I look at today and I still get sick to my stomach thinking about them and wishing I had never done it.

 

Please, if you ever need to talk PM me on here or if you have yahoo or MSN I will be more than glad to talk to you.

[jengh]

what did your mother have to say about this? Are you still in therapy?

[jengh]

Yes, I see she's 14....but when I was her age, the doctor was more than willing to give me that just to get me to quit... I suppose it is illegal though...

[Mythical_Suicide]

Yes and the doctor who gave it to you can get into some serious crap for it. That's like me going to a doctor and saying im addicted to alcohol, they sure aren't going to prescribe me beer.

[fatalblow]

she started crying real bad and no

[jengh]

i see your point. i was just throwing out random ideas. sorry.

[Mythical_Suicide]

I understand, I wasn't trying to attack you I just didn't know if you realized she was so young. Sorry if I came off wrong.