jbonner Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 Hi! I just need to know other's thoughts. Is it normal for a straight man to use vibs on himself (anal) and also to shave his legs, or is this gay behaviour? Link to comment
Protex Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 I don't think either of those are gay behavior whatsoever. Link to comment
jbonner Posted October 1, 2004 Author Share Posted October 1, 2004 Hi! I just need to know other's thoughts. Is it normal for a straight man to use vibs on himself (anal) and also to shave his legs, or is this gay behaviour? Plus he shaves almost the rest of his body. I'm just confused this all started in like the last 6 months and we have been together for 4 years and two kids. Link to comment
Protex Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 Okay, I guess you want me to go more in-depth. I know of males who enjoy anal stimuation but are not homosexual. Believe it or not many men ask their women to provide anal stimulation for them. The shaving of the legs is nothing gay, some men prefer different things. Link to comment
jbonner Posted October 1, 2004 Author Share Posted October 1, 2004 Yes but he doesn't want me to do anything with him there, he only does it to himself. Link to comment
Protex Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 Maybe he is just sensitive about it. He's probably just more comfortable with him doing it to himself. Link to comment
jbonner Posted October 1, 2004 Author Share Posted October 1, 2004 I don't know ......maybe but another thing is since he started with this we never do anything, I believe in the last 6 months we have had sex once Link to comment
Protex Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 If that's the case, maybe you should sit down and talk to him about it. Link to comment
jbonner Posted October 1, 2004 Author Share Posted October 1, 2004 I've tried to plenty of times, and he refuses to talk to me. he will tell me something like its nothing, or he's just streeed out, nothing is wrong, but we were susposted to get married in November and 3 months ago to called it off. I'm just so confused and don't know what to do. I love him but I will not be with him if he is not straight, that's just something I'm not into. Link to comment
S4il Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 Does he use the Stimulation of the vibrator (if thats what it is) often? About him Shaving his legs, Nope! = not gay, just strange to me. Link to comment
darkaubrey Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 if he uses a vibrator, there is no reason to believe he's gay, there are alot of men who enjoy anal stimulation, just watch that sex show with the old woman talking about sex... i think it's the sunday night sex show, but you'll hear of alot men who do that. If he shaves his legs, that's not common, but i dont think it means hes gay, maybe he's in touch with his femanine side *shrugs* i really dont know why he does that. Link to comment
NotGay,Really Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 I'm a little confused, and need to straighten your story out. Correct me if I am wrong. You have been "together" with this man since you were 17. You have two children together. You are about to be married, but in the last six months he has suddenly cut off having sex. He instead prefers to pleasure himself, including anal stimulation with a vibrator. He also has shaved his legs and body. Is this all correct? Is there anything else to add? I think the fact that this is happening in conjunction with your proposed wedding should send up red flags. Can you get couples counseling? Link to comment
NotGay,Really Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 Ah. I see I did miss one other thing. You were supposed to be married November 3, but he called it off. Yes, there is something wrong. Get thee to a counselor. It would be best if he would accompany you. But if he won't, go for the sake of yourself and your children. Link to comment
jbonner Posted October 5, 2004 Author Share Posted October 5, 2004 See and i keep tring to talk to him and he won't then on Sat he just bought a 10 inch dildo and rented porn (just men in the video) and locked me out of the bedroom Link to comment
jbonner Posted October 5, 2004 Author Share Posted October 5, 2004 I'm so confused and hurt, and really no longer know what to do Link to comment
NotGay,Really Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 You have good reason to be hurt. But confused? Get some wise counsel. And be prepared for bad news. That's all you can do at this point. Link to comment
jbonner Posted October 27, 2004 Author Share Posted October 27, 2004 Never mind...but thanks for all the help. All my questions were answered on Monday night when I came home from work early and he was sleeping with another guy. Needless to say I just spent all day moving. Link to comment
NotGay,Really Posted October 30, 2004 Share Posted October 30, 2004 For once I am sorry I was right. I hope you and your children have friends who will support you through this. How really, really awful for you. Someone very close to me is separated from her husband of fourteen years after he decided to tell her he was gay-- and had been unfaithful going back over ten years. So you really are not alone in this. It happens. Whatever you do, don't blame yourself. Please go to supportive friends, and get some professional help. I hope you will be happy again. Link to comment
Cadence308 Posted October 30, 2004 Share Posted October 30, 2004 JBonner, I just read about all of your posts and everyone else's. I am sorry. That is horrible. How are you doing now? How are your kids? Have you been able to talk to your ex about this at all? I have to admit before I got to the last few posts I was thinking he sounds gay. take care Link to comment
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