amlonely27 Posted January 22, 2012 Share Posted January 22, 2012 So a while ago I made some posts my situation with my husband. We were separated for a long while and then he asked if he could return home and move in temporarily. Well temporary turned into 1 year. I have suggested more counseling but at this point I am fed up with everything. I just feel like I am way better alone. I am not sure what to do or how to do it but I know it must be done. I've let years past by in the same rut. I feel horrible and I feel like no one will ever want me but him. Since he has moved in my kids have been disrespectful to me, he has spit in my food etc. I am just not sure why I continue to put up with this. I am at a breaking point. I don't want to put him out on the street but I am considering it at this point. Link to comment
TearsofFate Posted January 22, 2012 Share Posted January 22, 2012 Why did you let him move back in if he causes so much pain and agony for you? Kick him onto the street. He's only your concern if you make him your concern. I think you should focus on your life not his. Link to comment
amlonely27 Posted January 22, 2012 Author Share Posted January 22, 2012 I agree. I just don't want to be the "bad" person. I don't want my kids to suffer because of me. Link to comment
amlonely27 Posted January 22, 2012 Author Share Posted January 22, 2012 Not sure what I was thinking. He was saying that he had no where to go. Link to comment
heaven123 Posted January 22, 2012 Share Posted January 22, 2012 In a year of your generous hospitality he could have found somewhere to go. Tell him he has a week to move out and see him on his way. Sounds like you have moved on emotionally so that's a good start. Link to comment
amlonely27 Posted January 22, 2012 Author Share Posted January 22, 2012 heaven123, I will try that. Hopefully all goes well with it. I am sure it will be hard and hopefully he goes so I can be free of this situation. Link to comment
amlonely27 Posted January 22, 2012 Author Share Posted January 22, 2012 I plan to give him the terms of the separation in writing along with the expectations. I want to plan every detail before I go with it. I will let you all know how it goes. Link to comment
TearsofFate Posted January 23, 2012 Share Posted January 23, 2012 You're not the bad person. You took him in for a long time. It sounds like he's taking advantage of you. Even if he makes you out to be the bad person you're not. You took him in and he disrespects you in your own home. You've let him stay a year and you care about your kids. You are a great person and he doesn't deserve your hospitality if he isn't even fixing himself or working things out with you. He sounds like a huge weight on your life. Sometimes its better to be single then to hang onto a person who just won't change (for you). It doesn't matter if he's a "great" father. The spitting in food is disgusting and you need to think hard about what this guy really is doing for you. It's better to be single and leave a space in your life for a man that will care. As long as this guy stays you could be ruining the opportunity to find someone nice for yourself. Link to comment
amlonely27 Posted January 23, 2012 Author Share Posted January 23, 2012 Thanks TearsofFate. I feel stagnant. We were supposed to be divorced years ago. We talked last night and he should be out of the house in 2 weeks. Hopefully I will not have any real problems but we will see I guess. Link to comment
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