Hi,
I have a story to tell, and some advice to ask, I don't intend this to be a long post so i'm sorry if it is. I feel I need to talk to someone but don't know who so I lay my story on this board for both myself and anyone who wants to read it.
4 years ago I was a senior in high-school, I was just finishing and met a wonderful woman L . As with everyone I felt like I was the luckiest guy in the world L respected me, my business and how much time I had to devote to work and college (university). This all lasted for 2 years then suddenly one night when we were driving down a town road she hit me with the "I need some space" speech. Of course, I was upset, I even begged her to stay with me but she didn't, she left.
After this we remained "friends" for about a week until we had a disagreement and we called it off and we did not speak to each other. I removed all of her photo's etc from my house and even removed her "un-memorized" phone number from my book and cell phone. This hurt like heck, but I moved on, I met a nice girl at the office (at the time I was senior programmer (go figure eh)) and started to spend some time with her.
Then, 3 weeks later my ex called me out of the blue and told me she wanted me back and that she had made a terrible mistake. Being freshly out of the relationship I quickly left the girl I was seeing and jumped back on the saddle with L again.
We have since been going out what I thought was "happily" for 2 more years, when just last week she pulled me asside and said to me that "I worked to much and wasn't romantic enough for her" and left me. Then every day after she has called me up and said she wanted to be friends with me, asking me what I have been upto and telling me about her day. Of course it's not just her, I have been the culpret as well, calling her up and asking the same questions. The only problem is that I don't agree with her reason, should I? I don't know, is it my right to even question her? every time she calls or I call her I feel releieved, it brings an hour or two of happiness to my life again before the constant depression and moping around the house starts.
Whats the best course of action for me? even if she said she wanted me back I don't know if I could accept her back, will this keep happening? is this a "trend" once every 2 years she'll leave me?
Any advice or just conversation about this would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.