jayjay

Yes sometimes I don't understand what my gf is doing, it could be an act of selfishness and not considering my feelings at all. Could it be that she think that there's no harm on being friends with him? I don't know. But it's a big deal especially on what she promised me. I am very negative about this situation. For her being friends with him will add more pain & misery I believe because she is disrespecting me and the beautiful relationship that we have. I am trying very hard to read between the lines and think positively but although I'm not really afraid of getting hurt again, I'm very afraid of losing her in my life.

sleepers: I think that one or a couple of suspicion or getting caught from a lie will deliberately bring down the trust. It's not necessarily when someone cheats, it could be a lot of things like lying and such.

I'm beginning to believe that it is possible but sad to say that things are not going to be the same again. In my experience as of now w/c had been 3 months since I found out that my gf was seeing an another man, trust is a hard thing to regain. I've been fighting myself to trust her once again but somehow this little things keeps on triggering my mind to go back in the past and be suspicious about her. Thus bringing my trust back down again. I gave her 100% or more trust in the past, I trusted her so much only to find out she was cheating on me emotionally and physically. Now I'm trying to work things out and we are doing fine. But now I live in fear of getting hurt again because I'm beginning to believe that her being caught would not necessarily change the way she is until something critical happens (ie. breaking up w/ her).

I understand where you are coming from but you have to see that I have already been burned when I let her be friends with this guy. This guy I truly believe still has the motive to confuse my gf again. I don't want that to happen, I don't want to be in the same situation again. She promised to me that she will tell me if he contacts her and if she talks to him again. Now I'm in doubt if she'll ever tell me. By the way, things are going great between me and her but I just can't help to be paranoid about these things. If she wants to be friends w/ him again, would there be anything more to it? She knows for the fact that this guy is after her and obviously by unblocking him she's sending a message that she's not avoiding him as she has promised to me.

First of all, I would like to thank you for viewing this post. I have been here searching around looking for answers that can help me go through what I'm going through. I'm 23 and 3 months ago I found out that she was cheating on me after 4 years of relationship. I forgave her and tried to move on (although it bothers me still to this day). If you want to know the whole story I posted this one a long time ago link removed I have specifically told her to cut off all contact with this guy and she did. I'm trying to build that trust again and something crucial has happened. She blocked him on her MSN messenger after I found out BUT recently I found out that the guy is not on the block list anymore. Would this be a possibility that she still wants to be friends of him again? It seems that she wants to start something with this guy all over again and I'm very afraid that I would be in the same situation again. What do I do? I'm very confused and frustrated...