Chugi

It's me again....it's been about 1 1/2 months since I posted my last request for advice. Me and my g/f talked it over and decided to get back together and try and work things out. This occurred exactly 1 month after she wanted to break it off with me. I agreed and proceeded with caution, only because I was so hurt and still in pain because of our breakup. During the time that we supposedly got back together and were working things out I found out that she was still talking to the person that she cheated on me with and that she still gets many calls from this person. I confronted her and told her that if we were going to work things out and get through all of this pain she needed to make up her mind and tell that other person that she didn't want to see or have any contact with them, she agreed. It was two weeks after our talk and still she was getting messages and contact. I once again confronted her but this time she denied it and said that if I was going to be so suspicious and not trust her that it was better that we weren't together and that it wasn't going to work out. I don't know what to do? I know for a fact that she still gets voice messages and she keeps denying it. We talked again and she now says that she thinks that we are starting to work things out and that she feels that she can fall in love once again, and that she is not talking to that other person anymore for sure. Low and behold, I checked her voice messages the next day and guess what? yeap another message and she didn;t mention it to me like she said she would if she received any more calls or messages. She wants to buy a new home for us and start over but how can I trust that she is being sincere and that I'm not being played a fool? I don't want to keep checking up on her but I just don't seem to trust her and feel that I am being a sucker in love.....Please advice

Two weeks ago, my partner of 11 years told me that she didn't want this anymore. She said that she is no longer in love with me, but that she still cares and loves me very much. I usually try to make it right and convince her to stay together. This time around she was really serious and we weren't even fighting or anything. I knew that she really meant what she was saying, there was no way of getting passed this one. I told her that if this is what she feels is right, then I have to leave there is no way that I can continue to live with her and talk to her. This would only make me hurt even more than I can imagine. Right now I feel like day by day I die just a little more. She wants us to stay living together as friends but I can't do this to myself and live in misery. I tell her that if we can't be lovers than I don't want anything to do with her or her family. I am very close with her family and they seem to love me too. I just can't seem to realize that she doesn't want me anymore and that we are ending our beautiful relationship. We still get along great, we laugh, we have very good times, but she doesn't seem to be in love with me. I feel that I'm going to die. I can't see myself without her, I love her so much and I'm in love with her still. What should I do, how do I make it right or how do I move on?