First of all, thank you for reading this.
My girlfriend (or ex) met each other 3 and a half years ago when we were sophomores in college. Everything was perfect. Slowly, we started to pick at each other and start stupid, meaningless fights. I took her on vacation almost 2 weeks ago to washington dc and virginia beach. We had our share of arguments, but everything was good besides those 30 minutes a day.
To give some additional background:
I am 22 and she is 21. She has had boyfriends since she was 15, and she is my first ever. She has a group of friends that have found their mates and are getting married within the next 2 years. We decided we wouldn't get married until we both worked full time for 2 years (3 years from now).
After our vacation, she calls me and tells me that she needs time to be single. She said that she isn't interested in any other guys-she just needs time to find herself. I want to be her friend and support her. I called her last night and she said she needs time without contact with me in able to miss me. Since I have been emailing her and calling her, she hasn't had the opportunity to miss me and realize that I am the one.
I never stopped her from going out with her friends and doing "girls night out". She did everything she wanted when she was with me. Thats why I'm confused about her being single.
She admits that she feels bad and knows how much she is hurting me. I just want to know how long I should stand by her side. I want to be there and all, but she doesn't want me that close yet. I was going to propose next summer to her-and this ruined all of my plans. I will not go out and see other people, as I know that she is the one I want to grow old with. I want to be a supportive friend and be there in time of need, but I don't want to cross the line and always be there. Does anyone know how I can do that? Should I set an ultimatum or something? I'm sorry, I"m so confused.
Thank you again,
Jeff
