hi,im new here.
my husband of 20 years had an affair with his ex/ back about 1 year ago.
for me,it almost killed me.
i have been to so many site's,trying to get my question's answered.
but none satisfying yet.
you see,i think,he had this affair for 3 years. i know,however,for 1 full year.
but the thing is,when i got proof,and confronted him.
it was like everything exploded. i went to his ex-wife's husband and told him.
then,because of this,my husband told me,to get my stuff and get out of "his" house. which,this house is in both "our" names. mine being the top.
anyway,my husband has been thru so much sickness. over a 4 year period,he had back surgury,cancer,and other problems.
the thing is, during all this time,i stuck by him.
you know it says,"for better or worse"!
but anyway,that day,he made me leave for 3 days,i ask him this first.
i said,tell me this. why did you do this to me? what had i done to you,to deserve this?
he said,well,it's like this. even thou,i divorced my ex- for cheating on me.
i love her,always have and always will. i said,what about me? then why did you marry me? no answer there.
but he said,however i do love you,but in a diffrent way.
can somebody,please explain the "diffrent way" to me??????
my husband and his ex,put me thru living hell for 3 years.
however,we are still together now. i really don't know why thou.
i guess,for convenience.
i to thou,am scared,hurt,depressed,and everything.
of course we had no children,which im so thankful to this day.
also,i wanted to know all the little details to. you see,my husband doesn't work.
they were having there little affair,while i was at work everyday.
i want to know like where they would meet,what they talked about,all those little things. i feel like i had a right to know.
would anyone in here feel the same if it happened to you?? i would love to have some feed back on this.
plus,the last thing he said to me was this. DO NOT EVER THROW THIS UP IN MY FACE AGAIN PERIOD!
i haven't forgiven him,or forgotten it. how do i cope,or deal with this?
i wonder every day,when driving to work.
is it true,"once a cheater,always a cheater"?
