Hey all,
This is my first post on these boards and I could really use some advice. First off, I should say that I am the 'sensitive' one in this relationship. This is to say that I'm the one who over-analyzes, worries and is easily confused (as far as I know, of course I don't know how she feels).
So, I've known this AMAZING girl for about three months now and we totally hit it off since the moment we met. We have a huge overlap in interests in everything from politics,culture, food, music, art, you name it, we both like it pretty much.
We both had huge crushes on one another from the very beginning and there has always been a ridiculous amount of sexual tension between us. We live close to one another so over the last two weeks, we have been spending a lot of time together, dropping not-so-subtle hints constantly. Our friendship got to the physical and emotional (we felt comfortable about talking about anything) platonic limits (sleepovers with cuddling).
I decided to make my move last week and did so very successfully in that the feelings were completely reciprocated to the point where she told me that she wanted to kiss me 20 min earlier but chickened out. That night was great and we were both ecstatic that it happened. We both agreed that it was best to take is slowly.
Now this is where it gets complicated. We are both very busy people in that we both work full time and have very active social lives with a bit of overlap. She is also someone who needs her space/alone time, more so than I do. Also, she is a very driven person who will not let anything stand in the way of what she wants to do professionally and is going through a period now where she is re-evaluating her work and professional path (shes also 2 years older). I suppose my real issue in all of this is how to overcome the challenges of the change from friendship to relationship. Whereas spending all that time together as friends (and with that tension) was great (and at times frustrating) I fell like if we went at that same pace, it could prove to be a bit suffocating (for her more than me). I'm also, to some extent, worried about getting our, "alone time" in.
She is a very forward girl so part of me is saying, "chill out, let her initiate the next meeting." But at the same time I feel like if I though about it this way, I would be giving into, "the game" which we both hate. But I fell like thus far (and it's been a very little amount of time) that I've been the one initiating things.
I'm probably over-reacting as its been 5 days since we hooked up and she's done/said nothing to make me feel like anything is wrong or that her feelings have changed. I've just never had to deal with a situation like this as most of my past relationships have been all-consuming (both emotionally and sexually) and without the foundation of friendship.
Am I just over-thinking all this or should I be making a concerted effort to "re-calibrate" from friendship to relationship?
