a-non-imous

Some harsh words, which I suppose I should have expected. Although to just comment on symantics is not helpful. He is my friend, I never said I was being a good friend, I except that the betrayal of his trust should he find out, or should it continue, would then not make him my friend. But to judge whether he is my friend or not, given the information I have provided is baseing your entire opinion only my relationship with his girlfriend, and not my relationship with with him at all. I don't really mean to put focus on that it's just I would rather keep it a-non-imous and refer to him as a friend to avoid using his name. There are some really good opinions, I particularly agree with the adrenaline comment and am sure that wouldn't be there in a relationship circumstance. A relationship is out of the question, neither of us are of an illusions about that. I suppose I am really looking for the holy grail, how to stop things without hurting anyone.

Good advice, and probably the right thing to do, just not easy.

Ok don't really know where to start, and never really been an online relationship guidance sort of person, but I could do with an opinion and there aren't a great deal of people I can talk to this about. Friend of mine has been seeing his girlfriend for the best part of 5 years now, they have 2 children (3 year old and 1 year old). I am over at theirs a fair amount of time and over time got to know his girlfriend really well and we became good friends. About 2 years ago it took a bit of a turn when she basically said that she liked me (was a bit of drunken fumbling but nothing to serious). About a year ago we slept together. We have slept together sporadically over the past year. We get on incredibly well and the real kick in the teeth is it's no question the best sex of both of our lives. We are both coping relatively ok. But the thing that's getting to me is my friend and her are going through a rough patch that may split them up, lot of issues involved most of which I know are unrelated to me. That said I am still feeling incredibly guilty and have a compultion to try and fix it. What can I do?