Hi Rose,
Thank you so much for the kind words and support, I really need it right now. I took my dog for a long walk and at one point I breathed a sigh of relief and said, "I CAN get past this."
I would have walked through the fires of Hell for this man, and he basically just used me for the sex, the company, the excitement of it all. You're right when you say he didn't love me and I think somewhere I knew that all along, even after he said it once.
Now I need to figure out what to do with all the time and energy I used to lavish on him and his needs and stop putting my life on hold and do something with myself.
It's hard, though. I keep crying and wishing I had not ended it with him. I know it wasn't healthy for me, and maybe in time I'll actually feel it, rather than just know it. I take solace in knowing that I saved him, his wife and family a world of hurt and humiliation. That makes me feel at least a little noble, although I wish I had come to this earler rather than later.
It's funny, I was married for 35 years and have no problem getting over that, but this 1 year affair is killing me, and has really torn me apart. I have never felt a love like this and it hurts so bad.
I keep telling myself, baby steps, baby steps...
Thank you, Rose! Hugs to you, too.
deb