This is my first time of posting on any talkboard but i have checked this site before and the advice given is usually good so i have decided to try it out.
I have a dilemma on my hands and don't know what to do.
I have been going out with this girl for 3 months now,
we first met when i was working at a previous job.
I really really love her and i think she feels the same about me.
I feel she's the one, we get along well her parents and her family's fantastic.
Thing is i've got a chequered past.
When i was working in my previous job, my identity was well not suspect, but because i could not legally work at
the time i assumed a false identity. I have subsequently conveniently married, divorced and all my documents arein correct order.
Thing is because i met her at my previous job she assumes i'm who i'm not.
It's not something you tell someone on the first date, also i didn't know this would get this serious.
One more thing. Her parents like me now, but they're also pretty conservative. If they new about my past, the relationship is a non-starter.
I can't live with this though, it's burning me up inside.
I don't know what to do.
Do i :
-Bite the bullet and tell her the truth.
-Break up now without telling her- like giving her some other reasons why i cannot go out with her.
I'll feel i have lost 'the one' but i don't want to cause any unecessary aggro between her and her parents in the future.
-Send her a link to this page, don't really know what this might achieve, but maybe it's partly because i dread telling her face to face.
Please Help. Any advice is welcome.