First off, we don't share in the problem, she actually did the same thing to her first husband. all I really want to know is do I let this other woman know how much I care for her. Not a sexual thing, at least not at the moment, I am just comfortable and feel good around her.
I have tried for 5 years to discuss problems with wife and she always responds with "nows not the time" or "I don't want to discuss this". So, I have given up on trying 2 years ago. I would like to have some semblance of a "normal" relationship with someone.