Babypooh

I have met her. I have attended a picnic at her house where she proceed to ask him to grill, move patio furniture and eat off of his plate. And when I was ready to leave at 10:30, we got there at 5, she offered the spare room and to bring him home in the morning if he wasn't ready to go. I have invited her to dinner at our house and she will not come. They go out when I am with my children, but never when the children are with their father and I could attend also. I have not doubt that she is a rival and not at all happy about our relationship. That is why I don't want her knowing anything. I doubt she asks out of concern, but to gather information to be used at a later date.

Mythical_Suicide I am trying very hard to trust him enough to go out with her. They have known each other and been together dating / married for ten years and separated / divorced another five. Their divorce was friendly and happened because he didn't love her "that way" anymore. If he wants to be friends with her, I'm okay with that most of the time. But I'm not her friend and she's not mine and I don't know want her knowing my / our business. He's not supposed to discuss any aspect of our relationship with her. But now I wonder what else she knows.

I have been dating my bf for just over a year. We are both divorced. I have always had a very hard time trusting my SO's. I recently got some news from my doctor that was not good and requires further testing. I decided to trust my BF and tell him about it. He thought his ex-wife went through something similar and wanted to ask her details. They are still very good friends, talk a couple times a week and go out once or twice a month. That's another issue. I told him that if he asked her about it she would want to know why he was curious and that I didn't want him talking to her about me. He said he understood. I just found out, the next day he called her anyway. He says he's sorry that curiosity got the best of him, but I'm really mad. We talked about it and I told him I understood why he did it and that it was okay. That was two days again, but I'm really not okay. He had good intentions and wanted more information, but he went against my wishes, which had been clearly stated. How do I trust him again? Any advice would be appreciated. BP