HondaTuner0487

probably shouldnt have left that part out. You see, she was clear in telling me that part of the reason she needed to find herself was because of how intense things with us were that she lost who she was. Like everyone says on this site, the person you were before blah blah blah. So let it be known that part of the reason she wanted it was the fear of being with me and my clinginess would make it almost imposibble to both be with me and have a life outside of me. Like our relationship was 100% devotion to each other and its not what either of us want... i dont know, i'd really like to try things again. See, we'd aways try to plan our future and stuff and that stuff is just wrong so early in the relationship... we just got so attached and now we'd both still like each others company and companionship just on a MUCH more layed back scale... No more calling 6 times a day and going way out of my way to see her everyday... Shes not the only one who wants that kind of relationship, i just have issues with clinginess that i need to get over in order to fully enjoy it.

Well, i sincerely doubt she cheated or wanted to or whatever. She has always been very commited. See i have a clingy problem and thats what created the whole thing in the first place. I think she wants to be with me just is afraid of clinginess, if i could get over that (Really clingy ) than everything would be cool, whats the advice on that?

LoL hey guys, sorry to update again but i have another question... interesting events happened. I was being like a stone to her online and it was making her so mad. She would block me and then five minutes later would unblock me and try to get along. She did that about twice. We ended up talking on the phone and she said that she really wanted to be with me but she wanted to know that i would give her time to be herself. I told her i would give her a minute, because the next minute some beautiful woman could walk into my life and sweep me off my feet and i dont want to have to tell that girl no. This angered her. I made it very clear that there was no gaurantee that i would be there in the end... So says "Would you get back with me right now at this very moment if you could?" I said, no, not now, and told her that if it was meant to be than we would just fall back together. This ended with her asking me if she wuld talk to me tomorrow and i told her i didnt know depeneded on what i was doing. She got worried and said she hoped she would get to talk to me tomorrow... she said goodnight and i said "yup, seya" and hung up, i got the last word. The ball is in my court as far as i can see, my question is by me turning her down tonight to get back together is that a good idea? What is my next course of action... I do really like this chick a lot and do want to be with her... whats next?

o and when she asked me for the favor i told her that me doing favors for her was something i did while i was with her and now that im not i have no reason to.

UPdate! She called me tonight, well first texted asking me to do her a big favor. I called her but acted numb towards her, simple yes and no answers and when there was silence i said talk to you sometime and hung up, she just called my house and is instant messaging me like crazy right now but i have said nothing.

Hey guys, this will probably be a long story but i will try to make it as short as possible. I was dating this amazingly beautiful itilian chick for almost a yearand two months. We started out great, you know, not seeing each other all the time but when we did it was something out of this world. Well * * * * started to go down hill because we started to see each other so much. We would literally see each other every day and all the time possible. We became obsessed with each other and started to forget te reasons we were so attractted to each other... heres the weird part Yesterday i went and picked her up from an event she was at and it was obvious she was in a bad mood. She swore nothing was wrong, so i figured what the heck and we went back to her house. At her house she asks me to lay in er bed with her and take a nap together, but its soooooo ovious from her body language that something is on her mind... She cracks and tells me that she was to go find herself and she needs some time apart to gain back who she was, hang out with friends, date other guys, etc... She knows i am thinking about joining the Air Force and in tears begged me not to join. She would constantly reach out and hug me realllllyyy freaking tight during the whole conversation inisisting she cared about me so much and the only reason she did not want to call this a break is because she didnt want to have it turn out where either her or i find someone better and than the other on is left disapointed. I left her house with her rying and hugging me really close, i kissed her on the forehead and left, reminding her that i understood completely. That night she alled me to tell me how crappy she felt and she told me we would be together but first she needs to just have some time apart. During the conversation we came to an agreement that we can still maintain contact if emergenceis arise but should both stay out of each others lifes for a while. In thiry or so days we have it planned to go out and do something fun and light together and talk about how our lifes are and go from there... What do you guys think about the situation? We had a very very almost to close relationship and we abused how special love really is... I want her bak and she sounds like in time she will too... What should i do to make her realize that all that love she has for me can be shown to me?