Asimov

Thanks for your thoughts ppl alot of what I've read here makes sense. I'm sad to say that I broke it off with this girl today - it seems that we really are too different but in the end it was not the differences that I mentioned earlier (although maybe they played a part). I found that she often got upset very easily but was not willing to talk it out. She couldn't seem to tell me calmly when I did something that bothered her. She would simply get aggressive and then sulk. I grew up in a home where there was constant fighting and I now it's my pet hate when people talk to me aggressively or lose their temper. So there we go - it seems we were too different but in a less obvious way than I first thought *sigh* It is sad to break it off even when you know it won't work.

Hi, I'm just trying to work out my feelings here and maybe get some helpful feedback. I recently met this girl and because of her, I am in turmoil and pain right now and I'm trying to understand it better. We have only been dating for a few weeks. I am in my late 20's but inexperienced in long term relationships. We are very different - she comes from a rich family and is physically very attractive. I've never been materialistic and I'm by no means rich and I'm not exactly a male model I have a feeling that if I was to pursue this relationship, it would take alot of work from both our sides. We will both have to make many changes and face challenges that will come from how different we are. Also, I have goals to travel, and the next 6 months are crucial for me to realise these goals (I have to get my working visa before I turn 30), and I've noticed that in order to make 'us' work I will probably have to put in alot of my recources, time and energy. We are so different, and I have very indivudualistic goals in the near future, I'm not sure if it's worth it. However my heart tells me that I like her and I want to make it work... Has anyone been in this situation? Any advice on how to proceed? Thanks Asimov