LimeGreen

You did not? Oh well my bad.

Hey, I bet you get hit on by men all the time.

Lady Bugg, it could be you!

shes2smart, I edited my post. I would like to get to know her as a friend first then see if we have anything to further connect.

I think I am crazy! And am I a stalker if I refreshed my page every ten seconds just to see if she is logged on? I read her entries and she is so articulate, so fluid with her words.

K, I just did a quick search on her earliest posts. She came on her because she had a bad break up. And simply for that, now I am unsure if she is ready to receive me. I am a coward to say the least and bit scared of rejection. I do not even have the audacity to message her. If I do, will she welcome me or deny me?

Thank you all very much for your responses. I do understand that most who come on here are in a very vulnerable stage in their lives and they can become prey to online predators. I hope I do not come off as one.

I have not thoroughly scope out why my interest comes on Enotalone but I was intrigued by a posting she did about her late father. I was just floored to read how loving she is as a daughter. I really like to just get to know her first but I am a shy person and I just do not know how to go about not offending her yet at the same time want her to know that I like her (not in a romantic way, not yet anyway) and if we can be friends.

Okay, I get it now. This topic is taboo.

Camber is right! Mothers have great influence over their sons. If you did not make a good first impression very likely he will be asked to drop you like a hot potato.

I read in other posts how it is highly discouraged but I have also read that it happens.

I am just wondering if those who have dated or found each other through Enotalone, how was your relationship? Are you still or no longer together?

I asked because I am started to take a liking to someone from here but unsure of how to approach this because I have never done online dating before.

Do I just message her and get to know her or what?

Let me ask you buddy,

have you not had sex yourself?

If your answer is no, then you have no right to feel the way you do. You weren't in the picture when she was experimenting sex with other dudes. You need not worry about her past but your future with her. The past sexual partners of one does not determine who they are. And it shouldn't influence you and your feelings for her. In fact, be glad that she is with you and calls you out when other men are trying to hit on her. You can't ask for a more loyal girl, dude.

I kinda fancy someone from this forum but I'm unsure as to how to approach her. She's the reason why I signed up or otherwise I'd still just be a silent reader.

How do I go about letting her know that I'm interested to not offending her as I'm sure she has lots of prospects ogling after her too?

I suggest that all women abstain from engaging in sexually beneficial relationships. Why? Simply for the fact that women if not all are emotional creatures who lose all sense of logic once they subject themselves to men intimately. They (the women) become clingy and needy and this is a big turn off for men especially those men who never intented any commitment or exclusivity with the women they are sleeping with.

I know because every one of my girlfriends who entered into the FWB type of relationships end up getting a broken heart because the men they give themselves to want nothing more than just to sleep with them.

What you need to do is tell her to get a divorce first. Then you two can talk.

I don't give a hoot if she's in an unhappy marriage. That still doesn't negate her (or her husband's) on the side activities.

I find it hard to swallow that them both have been in various affairs but neither of them want to initiate a divorce. Why? The answer is, who would when you can have the best of both worlds, a lover on the side and still go home with no guilt whatsoever.

I'm sorry buddy. But you're probably just her outlet as the three previous were. This woman absolutely does not value the sanctity of the vows she took and very likely, she upholds no sense of morals. By entering into a relationship with her, you put yourself back to square one. You're no farther from the night when you had your last casual sex encounter.