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I agree with annie, u should be able to talk to him about this. It isn't healthy to just go over and over this in your head thinking of the possibilites. You don't feel that you could just have a sit down "talk" with him rather than an argument? Just say something like "honey, there has been something on my mind and I would really like to talk to you about it." Then keep it calm and level headed. Tell him how this would make you feel and as annie said, ask him how he would feel if it were to come up in the future for you as well.

My 2 cents... I read most of the posts in response to the original. I have to wonder why our society tells women that they should "trust" their men and feel "confident" when another woman has her breasts shaking in their face or is rubbing their vagina, which is covered only by a thin string on their penis through their pants??? This to me is cheating. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. If the poster is uncomfortable by the possibly of her man going to a strip club she should tell him straight out. So many women just accept this behavior, "because they are just being men".... Makes me a bit sick. I do not think that any man would be okay with it if they came home to find their woman sitting on a chair in the living room with a barely clad male girating in their face. Maybe the woman could just respond, "Oh, it's okay honey I paid him to do this, I'm not cheating. Some random guy off the street came up and asked me if I wanted a lap dance." I am very sorry to inform everyone but the "entertainers" are simply random girls off the street that walk in and get a job. They are not trained specialists such as doctors or lawyers. It would be no different than my man grabbing a girl from the grocery store and getting a lap dance in a car. Sorry for ranting it just really aanoys me how women are supposed to be "accepting" of this and keep quiet etc. "Don't you want to keep your man?" Well, if he is a cheater, no..... Anyways, as for advice. Do not get worked up over something that you don't even know will happen. DO sit down and talk to your man about your feelings. It is okay if you are not comfortable with this. You need to let him know though, not just "wait and see if it ever happens". You could drive yourself nuts worrying. What it all comes down to is this, if my man cared more about having other womens * * * * in his face then he did about the fact that it would deeply hurt me (aside from the cheating aspect) that would be enough for me to leave. I would not intentially do something that would hurt my bf. Good luck