sam2confused

Big thanks to everyone for replying! Spot on! We talked yesterday and she told me exactly the same thing. It seems that she didn't mind (at least not that much) me looking at other attractive women when there were closer to my age. Now that we are older (she's 7 years younger than me BTW), the girls I look at, (often) could be my daughters. When she talked about it she sounded almost disgusted Anyway, we talked and I didn't lie. We now understand each other better, but we are still far from what we used to be.

I told her that. Many times. I'm trying to be gentle and considerate and don't even look at girls when she is not there. How else can I make her understand?

She feels insecure because of my constant looking at other girls – I didn't realise how bad that is. She feels she's not 'good enough' for me. And, it's not like she interrogates me. I don't have to answer that question. But we are trying to talk things out and sort out our relationship.

I'm new to this forum and posted for the first time yesterday. For background information: Something happened and it's rather urgent. We watched a film last night with some young sexy girl in it. My wife wakes up at 7:30 am this morning and wants to discuss her looks. I promised to talk to her in an hour (she's walking the dog now) The actress was very good looking. But, should I lie? If I say she's hot, there will only be more questions: Do you find her more attractive than me? Is she sexier than me? Would you sleep with her if you could? Why not? … and who knows what else… Should I lie and just say I don't find her attractive at all? It wouldn't be that big a lie anyway; I honestly don't care how she looks. The only woman I want to be with is my wife. But if I tell her that, she'll ask why WOULDN'T I want to be with a better looking woman (Referring to my constant looking at other girls. I'm guilty of that, but I honestly didn't realise how much that bothered my wife. I stopped that now.) Now I have to decide quickly – to lie or not? Any opinions will be appreciated.

Thanks everyone. I told her I'd stop looking. And I did. Probably too late, 'cause that only made things worse. Now she thinks I'm doing it all the time when I'm not with her. When we are together, she points a girl out to me and asks a million questions. She's obsessed. She's willing to work on it though, we tried counselling – didn't work. I really want to help her, just don't know how. What else can I do? ](*,) Please help; I don't want to lose her.

I've been reading this forum for some time and I suspect one of the posters is my wife. Anyway, my wife and me have always had a great relationship. We connect on so many levels. Sex has always been amazing experience with her. She's the love of my life and I never loved anyone like I love her. Not even close. I thought everything was perfect until recently when she revealed she gets jealous when I look at beautiful girls. She's being feeling this way for some time apparently, but felt too embarrassed to tell me about it. Now, I know most of you will understand me. Some girls are beautiful, some are sexy, but I LOVE MY WIFE! How can I help her understand this?