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Thanks guy yesterday was really hard i feel like he is messing with my head i went with him to a job interview for moral support yday cos i felt bad for him then he took me to lunch and then a movie i tried to make excuses but im so weak when it comes to him he held ma hand n hugged me i just hurt n burned inside i have so many feelings for him why is he doin this to him and its even worse cos im letting him

we didnt kiss or anytin cos i cudnt but i felt like there was moments where we cud have then he txt me in the evenin sayin im so attached to u grrr

So after being my bf's best friend helping him over come his health problems like diabetes and his mental problems like dyslexia he dumps me 2months in to the relationship

we have been so close and best friends for a year then one day out the blue he ses " i wanna be single" so i asked why he said hes confused i aceepted it and he ses we will never get back together -

so it hurts so bad and i cant change how he feels so then we share the same group of friends so i have to see him and he still tries to hug me n hold me n hold ma hand n im too weak to tell him not too, iv realised hes not the one for me anyway long term future wise but then why does it hurt so much n why do i still wanna be with him?

Well, I have no firsthand experience though know someone whom had it done. And from what I have seen, it is a very emotional thing...and there are very high physical risks too including the risks of the operation, malnutrition, and so on.

 

It's really important you don't use it as a miracle cure....you have to make sure you do change your lifestyle including your diet and exercise because you can "re-stretch" your stomach. A VERY high number of people regain the weight they lose within a few years as they do do this, because they never changed how they ate, and lived, before the surgery.

 

And, emotionally..you have to realize you need to work on your happiness...that losing weight won't automatically make you happier. For that, you need to really work on your "inside".

 

Good luck

 

 

Yeh im having some counciling as well about this and i know its not a miracle cure but its a step in the right direction, my bfs really worried im going to change as a person and not love him anymore and im telling him i wont but thats the thing i really dontknow how this is going to effect me emotionally so im scared, iv already changed my eating habbits and on a regular excercise regieme its a whole new lifestyle i have adapted and i love it i feel better n better everyday, now after the surgery its gonna be even more of change n im just afriad ill lose who i am in the process

I really think you need to take some space of your own and figure out if u really want her back because all she seems to do now is make u unhappy, she seems really easily influanced by her friends, i think give her a month of no contact which will both give u guys room to breathe and think what u really want and then see her face to face and see how you feel.

Ok so im really nervous now im going to have gastric banding surgery im 20 years old n weigh 18 stones and am 5ft 9 really unhealthy so i tried gym n diets but now surgery is the last resort iv paid 6500 for it and im scared but im also looking forward to being me again.

Anyone else had wieight loss surgery and whats it like emotionally?

yeh giver her space to figure out what she wants and realise ur not just somethin she can pick up n throw when she wants

Thanks guys i dont lecture or nag him cos he gets that from his sisters and mum i try to suggest oh if u do this then maybe it will work out better because etc... but yeh thanks for the advice people much appreciated

Welcome to eNotalone =)

 

In either case I'd suggest telling him how worried you are about these conditions, maybe even rope in your local doctor in the case of diabeties, most people who have Type A don't take it seriously, and don't realise the consequences it can have on them.

 

With the Dyslexia, well, the only thing that can have an impact on that are those tinted glasses. But I'd say the same thing, just tell him you're worried about the affect it has on him, and that you want to help.

 

Hope this helps =)

with the diabetes i think i will rop in my local doc thankss

and the dyslexia is very sensetive im scared to approach it cos i dnt wanna loose him and u know what men and their pride are like

I also had an insecurity problem have you ever really shared this with someone? what exactly are you insecure about?

So i recently got with my bf and hes such a great guy except theres a few things we need to work on and i need some advice onn how to approach this

A)He is a Type A diabetic meanin he takes injections but the problem is his diet is terrible and he drinks alchohol which is no good but iv told him to stop but he feels like im stoppin him from havin fun but im not im just worried about his health we have sat down and spoke about it so much and he says he wont but he still does everytime he goes to a party or something - he is 21 and im 20

B)I recently discovered he is dislexic and i dont know how to approach the issue without offending him, hes having a lot of trouble trying to get a job because of this and acts like its not even a problem when it really does effect him, i want him to get help but how am i meant to go about this when he doesnt want to help himself.

Thanks xxx