Great advice, yes I know the problem is mine and I'm here working on it. This is new to me being married for some 28 yrs. In the time my wife and I knew the history of our respective friends. A lot of my problems stem I guess, from a wife that struck up an affair that ended the marrage with some guy she met over the internet. That broke us up but later she wanted to get back togeather because she came to see what a mistake she made. He turned out to be a BIG looser that could write a great e-mail. I lost a lot of trust there that I need to regain. I guess I was just trying to see if there are standard ground rules for dealing with ex's so each person can make the other as comfortable as possiable. Or just trust (like I should) not let it bother me when once in a while some Ex still has the hots for my wife and just let it go. Women, do you just let it go as harmless??? I'm learning to do what I know is right but sometimes its not all that easy. Maybe someone could explane how they would feel twards a guy that might want her to cheat, but they feel they are in control,don't think it's a big deal , it wasn't going to happen, but they feel they should still be friends with them. Does that make sense? Just getting my sanity back. The break up with my Ex cost me a great deal. 28 years of work, I was retired @45, house paid for, rental income, my trust somewhat, etc., but now am faced with going back to work and starting over. The half I got wasn't enough to keep my life style. I'm going from one world to another and just trying to get some advice on how best to adjust.
Thanks V