challenging_thought

Thanks for your quick replies guys. I really appreciate it. You both have valid points. Since our talk, he even claims that now he doesn't find anyone attractive – but I know that can't be true. If that was the case all those years, how come that once I spoke, everything changed? I'm sure he is trying to spare my feelings, but it doesn't work. I want to do something and help myself, rather than putting him in a situation to have to lie to make me feel better. There must be something I could do.

I know that the fact that he finds other women attractive is not wrong. That's just it! I don't know how to handle it! Do you point out attractive mails to you bf as well? Does he point out attractive guys to you? Or, is it just about the girls? Yes, I hated his gawking before, but he stopped now.

I know this is about me. This is the reason I'm here asking for help. I know he loves me and chooses to be with me. But I know he thinks some women look better than me (which is unavoidable, I suppose). And that hurts me. Maybe because when he watches porn he gets turned on by them. Maybe because he was checking out other women all the time before our talk. I feel, if it wasn't for the whole package, he would rather 'do it' with them. Which makes me feel the second best, sexually. I'm obviously missing something and I'm so desperate to get it! I'll do anything, I just don't know what to do.

He used to show it in a different ways, then we talked about it, I expressed my feelings and now he stoped showing it at all. But now, I feel like I don't know what is going in his head. I also now that he is still attracted to people, even though he doesn't show it anymore. I know he did everything he could to help me. I know this is my problem, not his, but I still feel terrible about the fact that he finds other women attractive. Especially if they look better than me.

I don't seem to be able to deal with my hubby's attraction to other women, no matter how hard I'm trying. It may be normal for him (or for other people), but it still hurts. I don't get attracted to other men, so it's really hard for me to understand the concept. Any ideas how to overcome this? Anyone else feels the same? * Please, be gentle, this is my first post