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(edited) I think she also reads too much into my past involvement with female friends. There was never a serious relationship of any kind, and mostly we're talking about making out drunk or a one-time thing or so. I think she imagines it to have been much more involvement. In reality, our relationship definitely IS different from any of my past involvements with friends. And the one or two women from more serious relationships I've had in recent years, I *don't* have contact with anymore! Is it really that unusual to have made out with or occasionally slept with friends in the past? Where is the "can men and women be friends" thread?

(edited) what can I do?

I sense that this may be the type of issue that continues to crop up. Even if I meet new female friends who I've never slept with, I have the feeling my girlfriend would be jealous. But I guess that's something to deal with in the future if it happens, rather than now. I assume the trust will grow with time and when she sees that I'm not going anywhere and not interested in anyone else, she'll be more accepting of my female friends. I certainly hope so!

I have a wonderful girlfriend of two months and we're on the way to building a very strong relationship. We've known each other for nine years and something just clicked recently, and we fell in love. I have a lot of female friends and always have. I've been involved with some of them to varying degrees in the past, yet I've remained friends with them even after whatever one night stand, friends-with-benefits, or attempted relationship ended. So essentially there is a handful of female friends that I've slept with in the past, stopped being involved with, and remained close friends with. My girlfriend is having difficulty trusting me with them. (edited) We've talked about trust and I've assured her over and over that I would never be involved in any way with anyone else because I love her and I'm not interested in anyone else. I would never cheat (haven't ever) regardless of circumstances because I think it permanently damages a relationship, and I would never allow myself to get into a situation where anything could happen. (edited) So where do you draw the line on friendships with women from the past? I don't expect my girlfriend to be best friends with them, but I'm not going to stop being friends with them and I'd like for everyone to get along because some of them are very close friends of mine. How can we compromise? How can we improve the situation? Thanks!