thepinkshoe

Thanks for all the replies, keep em coming if people have more to say. I still don't know what to do but I have a lot to think about. I wish none of this had happened, that she would like my boyfriend (who is the nicest person) and that everything was great, but I guess this is one of the harder lessons in life.

I think what I'm wondering is if it's worth it to continue being a friend to a person who would treat me this way. I believe she's over reacted and also am quite hurt that she wouldn't even talk to me. After 10 years, I think I deserve better. I didn't sleep with her boyfriend or spread rumours about her... you know, something REALLY bad that would warrant the kind of way she's treated me. When do you let go of friendship? When is it just too much?

Hi, I'm really torn about what to do here. I've been bf's with someone for about 10 years and we've never had any problems. During these years I never dated anybody seriously. About a year and a half ago I started dating my boyfriend and our relationship became somewhat weird... like she never wanted to meet him and there was an uncomfortableness whenever I'd bring him up. It was like pulling teeth to even get her to meet him just once. It took about 4 months to get her to meet him. She's had no problem meeting our other friends' boyfriends, just mine. About 6 months ago the boyfriend and I hit a rough patch and I confided in her about some problems we were having. We've since resolved these issues and are happier then ever but now, of course, she uses these reasons as an excuse for never wanting to see him. She accuses me of "using her" to help myself through a difficult time... even though I have done the same thing for her with problems she's had. I confronted her with what's being going on in December and she decided not to return my phone calls or talk to me (we used to talk at least once a week). I finally convinced her to phone me last week over e-mail, but I don't think she was going to ever call me back. One of the things she said about not liking him was, and I'm not making this up, because he would say stuff to her like "did you know xxx's car was broken into". She thought it was dumb for him to say stuff like that b/c of course, she knew these details about my life already. I told her he was simply making conversation... me being the only thing they had in common. That should give some insight into the petiness I'm dealing with here. Why is my friend over-reacting and acting this way? Should I bother pursuing this friendship? It's been 10 years and it's hard to let go. We definitely didn't see eye to eye over the phone b/c I think she's being totally unreasonable and she always has to be right... sigh. Thanks. Any questions? I know I've written a lot here.