After reading many threads on this forum I realized that my situation is probably one of the easiest.
I’ve been marries for 6 years, no kids. I met my wife before university. We studied together and married after finishing the degree. We both work in software industry. We share same religion and observance of religious rituals.
This was the good part.
The bad part is that despite all those similarities, I feel that staying together is just too hard. Essentially we have different views on world and people around us. Basically she is very idealistic and frequently naive while i'm mostly pragmatic and skeptical. Yes, we can try not discussing sensitive issues but that is like pretending to be something that we’re not. It also appears that we have very different characters: I’m very carrier oriented and active type of person, while she is mostly passive person. We make efforts to meet somewhere in the middle but it looks like those behavioral characteristics are impossible to change.
We fight every time my activeness meets her passiveness.
I’m not sure whether I can imagine myself with her in 5 years, and i definitely don’t want to have kids that would grow in an unhappy family. I'm not even sure whether i want kids or not.
The problem is that just thinking that all these years, that our youthful love, that our numerous similarities and commonalities were just a big mistake – is just so horrible that I cannot pull the trigger on our marriage.
Also she is very nice person and I think that since I could not make it with her, I will not be able to live with anyone else. I think I might end up single forever – may be this is the only way for me.
I know that compared to some of the stories from this forum, this might seem simple and easy, but I’m so depressed by this problem that I don’t know what to do.
