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I'll ask about the foot.

Anyway, you look better than how you think. People tend to find their own faults much more unappealing than how they really are. On the other hand, even if you are the ugliest guy on earth, if he finds attractive, who cares? beauty is in the eye of the beholder. (Is that a cliche? well, it makes the point)

As for a place, well, think of places your parents wouldn't want to go. A movie they couldn't stand, (and movies are good cause the room is dark and the main focus is the movie, so if you fear someone could spot you, though you didn't mention it) or some food place they hate, etc. Or ask someone for a lift. That would work too. If your parents see him, do you really have to explain, for all they know, he's just another friend.

Good luck.

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not as known/used as some others, but I love it.

EDIT: With this icon and screen name, I look obsesed... haha.

You can PM me too, but mine is not a success story, but I'm up for any talk.

I'm there too, that guy that is sometimes obviously straight, but still says and do things (sometimes not obviously joking) that make you doubt completely. So horrible.

Anyway, I suggest you wait it out. Some people feel like bursting, and confess their feeling and end up straining a friendship. Because you are not very confident and sure, and you can't tell either way, wait until it becomes clearer, try to pick up more hints. Keep the eye contact going, and if you are brave(ish), start touching lightly and see how he reacts.

If they can play an instrument then I usually fall easily. I don't ask for much, only to be in shape (I like muscle, but a lot of it is a turnoff) and nice to hang around.

A) Well, if you don't get to see him much, it could probably fade away on its own, but if for some reason you are constantly seeing him, then you'll have to accept you can't help it and get over it with time, trying to not pay much attention to him, that's what I do at least, and it works for me.

B) Just be kind, and try not to. If he is hurt either way, it's something you couldn't control. You can't be expected to fake interest to make him happy. Alternatively, you can just ignore him, he might find that rude, but not neccessarily, but I think being direct would be better.

If you are who I think you are, then NO, DON'T. Not to be a bad person, nor am I advocating some sort of revenge, but he just doesn't deserve it.

That seems a bit vague... but if you're confident he understood, then I guess you are right.

Good for you though, at least you can now move on.

You'll just have to talk to him somehow. There are very few ways around it, if any. Don't worry, many have that problem, it's only a matter of confidence.

It all depends upon the circumstances as to why they aren't out for me.

 

If they aren't out because...

 

1.) They refuse to admit they are gay to themselves...

 

or...

 

2.) They only want to be with you to indulge some curiosity...

 

or

 

3.) They are on the down low and have no intention of being committed to a relationship...

 

All three of those would warrant a hell no from me. I know from personal experience from situation number one. I was really head over heels for the person, but he refused to admit he was gay even though we made out several times...I refuse to do that again...

 

However, I would date someone who was gay but struggling to tell family and friends about it...That is understandable because it is very hard to disclose your sexuality in a bigoted society.

Yes, pretty much all that. If they are not questioning and want me to be a "test run" then it's fine.

Well, if you really feel that you MUST say something to him then you could tell him whether he follows you or not. Also, if he doesn't follow you on Thursday but he does follow some other day, what would you do? Tell him that day?

I guess that you might be frustrated, but hang in there a while...

I think you'd be making the wrong decision. You'd be deciding a lot (from telling him you like him to blocking him out) depending on whether he follows you or not... it does sound like there's a strain between you two, but I don't think it should be worked out like that... just a thought.

I would see it as an open door... if he was fully straight he would have just put "straight". Then again, maybe he is indeed questioning himself a lot and isn't ready for a relationship or anything.

But I think it would be safe to come out.

I used to hate the silence too... you'll get used to it. There are things you could do... like keeping eye contact, or look around and strike a topic from something you see. Try it, you'll get around this eventually.

Tell him to stop, as soon as you can. The more you do it the more it'll hurt. Of course, it will probably hurt to cut him off right now, but it can damage you more. If you can talk things through then alright, but if he insists on playing those little games of confusion then I'd say yes... cut him off.

I think it's a good idea if your mates have done it to you before. Don't forget it is going to be Halloween/Trick or Treat on 31st October. That should give you another excuse.

Well, if he does it on Halloween then that gives him a week...

I'm all for thinking and doing plans, but maybe you could keep that under your sleeve for a while. I think that first you should try talking more to him, not just about the girl, but also getting together outside of school... if for some reason you can't, well, then you have your plan.

EDIT: But it does sound like a good plan...

If it's about courage it would be a good idea to try to solve your issues with shyness... just a thought.

He is smart. You are in math class... just ask him to help you, say you don't understand something or whatever. (But after class... tell him to help you with your homework somewhere during lunch or a break)

GOOD FOR YOU GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I bet you're THRILLED

Well, but it IS something. Maybe it's something you can look forward to. But if she doesn't would it really hurt if YOU ask her out? You can't just wait until a meteorite that says "get together" falls near you two...

So weird... many wouldn't be comfortable in that situation, but maybe he was able to tell it was a joke and decided to play along. (depends on how obvious you are)

But at least now you know he is comfortable around you.

Also, you could innocently get on topic and ask if he thinks he could feel something for another guy, a question along those lines. Doesn't necessarily imply anything. But he could be uncomfortable answering those things directly, so it really depends on the aproach you want to take depending on how much you know him.

Well, usually when you just know something wasn't a coincidence most of the time you're right.

Anyway, have you (or anyone) mentioned any gay/bi related topics around him? Depending on his reaction you could get a clearer perception...

Guess she was saying that she wouldn't consider you a sibling, or, family, that she doesn't see you the way you see her. (a bit less maybe?)

That's what I get...

That great, good luck with that