How can one deal with emotional baggage from a divorce that is affecting their current relationship? I have been dating a wonderful man for a little over 6 months now. He had recently divorced - he and his wife of two years had been separated for 6 months before he asked me out and his divorce was finalized. Prior to Christmas vacation, things were wonderful. We spent most of our free time together, we had long conversations about our expectations out of life, and he showed a great deal of affection towards me, sending flowers and romantic cards/notes/emails. When he returned from Christmas, the first few days were fine and then he started acting strange. It started with him asking me where I thought our relationship was going and it all went downhill from there. A few days later he told me that he has found us slipping into a "domestic routine" that is making him nervous. I asked him point blank if he was having second thoughts about our relationship and he told me not really, he was just having a hard time coping with the fact that he was divorced and spending the holidays at his parents alone for the first time in several years. A lot of his relatives had not seen him since the divorce and they wanted details so he was forced to relive it over vacation. Here we are three months later and he is still acting differently. I long to go back to how it was before Christmas vacation when everything seemed so perfect. There are days when he is very affectionate and then there are days when he is extremely reserved. We went from spending nearly every day together to spending one day during the week and the weekends together. He still calls every day and he stops in to see me at work on M-W-F when we work in the same building, but things have changed. I have been attracted to this man since the moment I met him three years ago and never in my wildest dreams would I have ever imagined that I would actually have him as my own. I don't want to give up on this relationship, but I don't know what to do about this. Any advice, information, etc would be greatly appreciated!
Thank you
Nikki
