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Cian_Symbol

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  1. I just don't think this would actually stop my anxiety about it and may even feed my compulsive thoughts about it. I should be able to make myself feel better without burdening him, if it's nothing. I think I should just tuck it away at the back of my mind for now.
  2. Good reason is very subjective, so I don't know. I have a lot of difficulty figuring that out. You're totally right. It's because cheaters can appear like great partners. I shouldn't have gotten in a relationship with someone until I could give them full trust, and if I'm wrong then I guess I'm being a terrible person. I'm also coming at it as if that's the case simultaneously. but I've quite literally never been wrong when I've suspected someone was a certain way and looked into it.
  3. A bunch of things that wouldn't make sense to someone unless they experienced it. Some people give off certain vibes and I've never been wrong so I guess I'm overly confident. I apologize for needing to be vague. I've experienced this sort of thing before and it's just not helped by communication especially when the person seems manipulative. It mostly just signals to them to be more careful. I'm sorry, I don't feel comfortable answering those first two things. But I really appreciate the response. I didn't ask him, I don't think it's a situation where it would be useful except to get gaslit and I do want him and our relationship to be how it appears to be and don't want to ruin it for nothing. But I have consistently been getting bad vibes and I've had excellent radar for this thus far. But I could be very wrong.
  4. Thank you for sharing that with me. Unfortunately, it was a holiday.
  5. I went away with my bf and found a receipt on the passenger side of the car for tampons. here are the facts: -Found a receipt that wasn't mine for a pack of tampons on the passenger side of his car. -he lives with his parents -parents both have their own cars, both were home from work. -the receipt has the last 4 digits of the debit card number. Doesn't match any of his credit cards (and it's a debit) -last 4 digits don't match the receipts of his parents left in kitchen but didn't have time to check them all. -mother is right when menopause begins and could still have period. But no tampons in drawers of bathroom. - the card is a flash debit, so not a credit card. I personally associate that with being young. -although the place the tampons are from is close to his house, it's definitely not the closest so somewhat of a weird location. It *is* close to where he meets people from work for lunch. There are 4 other closer places they could have gone. So the best scenario is his mom needed to go get tampons from the store, but her car was boxed in by his and my bf offered to drive her. But why go so far? Why didn't she borrow her husbands car? Was she not feeling well? I don't want to accuse someone or give them a chance to lie yet. He would probably say it was his mom, but I'd still try to confirm the code even if he said that and it'd be harder to do. Yes, there are other red flags about him. I could see it being a "you're going to the same location I am, let's just hop in the car together" What's the next step?? My only plan now is to hope there are more receipts from his folks out in the open to see if I can find one with the same debit number. I think I should find at least 2 credit cards used by his parents, maybe three before I have enough reason to confront him. If I find a receipt from them with a debit card that doesn't match the number on the tampon receipt, I'd consider that pretty solid evidence of a female surreptitiously being in his car. But I don't want to actually go snooping much more than I have. It'd just have to be that I sort of look at receipts in the open if I happen to be in the kitchen. I'd assume home depot purchases would be his dad, maybe some female coded clothing receipts his mom, to rule out what they use for their purchases. But I honestly don't know what I'd even say to him. What do you think?
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