Me and my boyfriend (2 years) have always had very deep conversations ever since the beginning of our relationship about many things, such as moral beliefs, philosophies on how the world works, childhood traumas, etc. But recently, it feels like he doesn't understand me/try to understand my perspective when we have those types of conversations. Specifically when I am talking about my frustration at my upbringing since I think my parents definitely gave me some toxic behaviors that I am struggling to unlearn in my adult life, he just seems to not care/not understand, immediately talking back about how that wasn't his experience with it (which almost makes me feel like he thinks I'm making it up or being dramatic). On many complex issues in the past, even when we had conflicting viewpoints, he listened and understood what I was saying, even if it wasn't something he agreed with. But with this issue, and some other important ones, including my fear/hesitancy around having kids, he just seems unable to comprehend why I feel the way I do. It is very frustrating to me and it makes me feel unloved and insecure in our relationship. Is there any way that I can try to get him to understand me on this, or does this mean we are incompatible on a deeper level? Am I just overthinking this? Please advise.
