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i considered it many times but i was honestly afraid, knowing him he can send his sister to my address here or send his friends to harass me. so i didnt block yet but i am no contact for over 3 months but yes i have already hired a lawyer, im seeing a psychiatrist and psychologist and im also 3 months sober from drinking

for people wondering my native country is european and the country we lived in was a wealthy country in gcc. abuse rights are regarded here in europe, whereas there no one cares. (also my mom was my sponsor so she was the one who canceled my visa to have me deported before her death)

hello everyone ❤️ i will share my story below with some background about my mother, and the actual problem. id appreciate advice on what i can do and insight as to why my mom did what she did I was being raised by my grandparents (moms parents) until i was 5 when my mom wanted to move to a wealthy country for a better life. Prior to that my mom married a man and he legally adopted me when i was 9. but i was fooled by everyone into thinking he was my bio dad, when infact he was not and i learned this after my mom passed away earlier this year. my mom's mom (grandma) stayed with us , she was taking care of the house (cooking, cleaning, laundry, daily) and taking care of me in every possible way including being my tutor. My parents always made fun that grandma is coddling me but she was the only one who never said a bad word or hurted me. she loved me a lot and sacrificed her whole life; with her job, family, husband and friends to come and raise me. and unfortunately my grandpa passed away. Last June my mom found out she had stage 4 pancreatic cancer, given a year tops. At that time she had stopped working from a few years, and she was always the main breadwinner with her monthly salary being $10K where he didnt even earn half of that. He was stealing her gold, jewelry, heirlooms and either pawning them or selling them. His whole life he was in debts and problems, loan sharks, legal cases against him. hes a theif, a scammer and con artist and was involved in a major crypto front for money laundering too. he became abusive towards my mom before her sickness and even though i moved out, i came back and intervened and i personally would assault him to protect her. he was also cheating, and ruining her reputation in social circles. my mom was very attractive, smart, and people loved her as a person and leader. he was the opposite. he has no friends, hes not goodlooking, and people loathe him. he cant keep a job, he gets fired after the probation period or 6 months tops. . anyway upon her diagnosis my moms whole behavior changed towards me and grandma. at the time i had moved back in because my mom had asked me to, and i really didnt want to. My mom was abusive towards me since she married him, (both physically and emotionally in extreme cases) TLDR it resulted in physical scars and marks all over my body, and emotional trauma but now it was something different. It's like she hated me , she didn't allow me and grandma to be beside her.She was cussing us out daily, all the abusive words from wh*re to trash, and wishing death upon us and telling me I will die soon bc of my alcoholism. I was working very hard to provide for me and grandma, we lived together but ate and lived separately, i was also paying rent there. but I was drinking daily from the grief of seeing my mom dying and her behavior towards me. She even wanted to kick me out of the house. Also when she was on the hospital, my stepfather had punched my grandma in the face and she bled a lot. When I heard it I intervened, tackled him immediately and was about to kill him until my grandma pulled me off and begged me not to. When my mom knew about it she laughed and said grandma deserved it and worse . for those curious i am financially independent, i dont have a college degree because my mom pulled me out after my 3rd semester, even though my grades were all As (i was abroad in europe) and they thought i had too much freedom and wasnt mentally stable at the moment to continue studying. at 20, i got a job in sales, and worked as a private tutor. i also made my own start-up where we do assignments for university students, its very stressful but pays well too. i had ti be creative because i dont have a college degree and its hard to find work in the place where we lived, if not impossible without a degree. Even on her last birthday I bought my mom a cake and decorated and she dismissed me. if i gave her something, she shunned me and made fun of me even though she saw me crying and breaking down, she didnt listen when i begged her to go with me to PanCan. She chose to spend her last birthday, last Christmas and last new years with him. On my birthday she didn't even wish me, it was going to be her last with me. Now 3 months before she died I had a breakdown. I'm diagnosed with bpd and cptsd for years. I couldn't take the abuse and I started crying and banging on her door and begging her and asking mom why are u doing this I love u, she knew I was drunk but I wasn't going to hurt her. Even tho she would try to provoke me I can never hit a sick person. I was banging on the door and then she said she will call the cops. I got angry and began hitting the door with a stick. The cops came but didn't want to take me. This was the last time I saw my mother. Her telling the police that she has cancer and I am trying to kill her and she wants to sue me. I was detained for over a week. The public prosecutor said to transfer me to the state psychiatry where I was recovering for 2 months. Last thing was my mom cancelled my visa to get me deported back to my home country and soon after she went in the hospital for her final weeks. I wanted to see her but I wasn't allowed. People saw me for who I am in the police and the psychiatry and they felt so bad for me. Grandma visited me daily and my bestfriends took care of me by buying me clothes, sending food, leisure activities too. My visa was cancelled so I had to travel back with grandma and we did. I was devastated. i wanted to go back so bad, meanwhile the stepsh*t was poisoning people against me and grandma. i kept texting my mom until her last day, she passed 3 weeks after i was here. i kept messaging and trying to call her and tell her i love her and want to make amends. she was often online or on another call. we did the funeral, and piece of trash didnt come. later, grandma confided that he isnt my bio dad, and i wasnt suprised bc my whole life i hated him and i felt something off. and that I had a half brother and sister somewhere it was all so overwhelming. i lashed out at grandma for not telling me earlier but she said she made an oath to my mom that i must never know. i also knew there was a life insurance policy made by my mom but under my name with $100,000. it was all withdrawn last december 6 months post diagnosis )grandma herself had contributed to atleast 50% for that account . Now before my mom died, he kept hounding her to give him the 2 flats, if not the big one and she would say leave me alone, and hed say you promised. its important to note these flats arent my moms. she inherited them from her parents 30 years ago when she was 20, and wanted to get a US visa. back in the day my moms parents were very wealthy. they worked for the government for contra-awareness and had their normal jobs. so they invested in attaining 3 properties, a house we live in now which is grandmas, and 2 high-end flats that we give out for rent and the money goes in moms bank account. anyway stepsh*t has started harassing me since a few months, that he needs money and only he and i can withdraw from moms account. he was also telling me that moms last wish was for him and I to have 50% of everything, and grandma nothing. when i went to the agency of registation, i found out that my mom did not sign anything over to him nor did she make a will (and by law, i was told i receive her properties automatically). and he has no stake because they are seperate property and obtained before the marriage. (unfortunately theres no prenup, the prenup law came into effect in '09 in my native country, but they were married in '01) anyway he has since been harassing me, messsaging me across all platforms, even my work place. he forwarded an email between him and a new real estate agency, who are notorious for being scammers here. the agent there however told him "your daughter needs to sign the declarations before moving forward" and i caught a glimpse of two attachments giving my name as owner, and as co-owner. i kept ignoring him, until he gave my email to some lawyer without my consent. the lawyer claims he was my moms lawyer, and that me and my father inherited her properties. i was furious. i am stil grieiving and i will never allow that trash to inherit my grandparents hard work. my plan is to get it back and sign it over to my grandma. i also plan to sue him and remove him as a father i dont know what to do, he took everything from my mom. he sold her car, all her jewelry and possessions. hes living in a luxurious place with all the furniture and art my mother had bought. and to top if off he had the audacity (3 months after moms death) to post a photo of him and some cheap trash (who knew my mom), and he got a few comments of approval from his sister, and his sleazy perverted friends. he doesnt know i know but it made me very angry so far, he doesnt know why im ignoring him. he doesnt know that i know about the properties, or that hes not my dad. my bestfriend messaged him and told him to leave me alone, she threatened him too. he got very defensive and even lied and said he sent me a new contract of a new agency managing OUR properties. my blood was boiling. he also went on to insult me and call me irresponsible among other things.