Lilo57

UPDATE: I AM NOW SINGLE🤗

It isn’t the first time he’s done this. Unfortunately over the course of my 5 years with him, it was always subtle and almost slow burning. I guess it was easier to forget since it was never shock and trauma induced. I will be leaving him. I miss my guy friends. And myself.

@Wiseman2 this is why. Because this is how I will need to handle it. thank you @rainbowsandroses

I’ve already been doing the keeping my mouth shut thing. I’ve let him talk himself into a hole he didn’t know he was digging. Ever since the one fight, I have been cool as a cucumber whenever she gets brought up. And you are absolutely correct. He will say because I’d get upset. right now, I am trying to figure out my best course of action to handle this break up. it’s gonna be ugly.

How do you mean?

We don’t live together. Our relationship is okay. We are always actively looking to work on things. This year I was diagnosed with cancer so, things have been hard. And for the first in my life, I went through his phone. And yes I do mean it first time, we’ve never had that be a thing. But he just seems off. I had this feeling.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years. BF (26M) Me (28F) Throughout our years together he has NEVER had a female best friend. In fact, he thinks it's unnecessary because someone always catches feelings. Fast forward to the present and he started a new job. His first two days this girl trained him and the following days... he would not shut up about her. He found any reason to bring her up. I mean even as stupid as "the sky is blue, blank told me she likes blue. When I asked why our conversations those two days were all about her, he FLIPPED and gaslight me. Called me crazy??? Tried to gaslight which isn't like him. That same day I also noticed he started following her insta. Now keep in mind, me caring about any female friends is not a thing for me. It was his tone. Like new crush excitement when he spoke about her. I let it go because I can't control other people. He's gonna do what he's gonna do. I'm gonna trust until I can't. Months later, I'm over it. You know?? I'm suppose to trust him, right?? Well this girl, he acts like he never speaks with her. And only talks to when he has to for work. Only makes it seem like an unfortunate task to do so. Today. Saw his insta/text threads and they talk every single day. She vents to him about her guy problems. He listens??? They send each other endless memes??? Talk on the phone??? Normally he'd think that's so stupid. Listening to a random girl vent her about ***boy. Is this a friendship to lovers thing?? Bc it's funny. that's how him and I started. He listened to me about my ex while we're dating. But I know, they're just "co-workers." and asking him or doing anything like that. He’s SO defensive. It makes things worse.