My ex boyfriend and I were only together for a few months, so I feel like I should just accept the situation and move on but I can't. I've never felt this way about someone before, I never believed in "when you know you know" until I met him.
We split only a week after coming back from a holiday together (a holiday which he says he thoroughly enjoyed). He said its clear that somewhere in my future I want kids and he doesn't and that there's no way he'll change his mind.
I tried to make it clear to him that kids aren't something I'm thinking about for several years yet (I'm in my late 20's but still have several things I want to do before having any children).
He says he's very certain he'll never change his mind on children and as much as he can see the joy they bring to his friends who have kids he doesn't see what benefit they would have in his life.
I tried to ask him if these feelings are there because of underlying family health issues which are genetic, he's still to find out if he carries this gene. I didn't really get a clear answer to this. I tried to tell him that if this was the case I wouldn't be scared away and I'd be willing to work together through anything.
Please help me I feel like no one close to me is understanding me because everyone thinks I should just shurg it all off as it wasn't a long relationship and really he's done a favour by telling me now rather than later. Even though I know that may be true I've really never felt like this for someone before even when I've had years long relationships. Everything else was there with him and its killing me that this one thing has gotten in the way. I don't know what to do I'm really struggling. I believe he really felt for me too.
I need to add I'm all for people choosing not to have kids of course, but there's something about this situation that's just agony because I love him, we were great together and he has so much potential as a future dad and I just wish he could see that and also see what this is doing to me and know is throwing this away what he really wants.
