You ask some great questions. I'm not really sure how I feel about contracting herpes. If the relationship lasts for life then it's not really a huge deal. If not, then I do think it would be harder to have relationships in the future which would be a major impact to my life.
I am definitely bothered by the fact that I wasn't told upfront. When we first talked about it she said she didn't plan to disclose it to her future partners because she felt condoms were enough to keep us safe. After talking with her about removing my ability to consent to the risk, she thought on it for awhile and came back with a heartfelt apology and promising she'd never do it again. I feel like it's possible to trust here again, but it's really hard to predict the future