fighterfly3

We lived together when we were on our extended holiday last year, and it was great. I've expressed wanting to since then but with the housing crisis where we are located- it has been impossible. I more meant with the current climate of current situations it put a rushed pressure. Not that it was not a thought before. Nevertheless, thank you for the comment it is much appreciated, Bayta33.

My boyfriend and I have been together almost two years. Last year we went on an extended overseas travel trip together (six months), and came home and started new jobs which we've held for three months. His job is a job that he took because his parents set it up for him and did not necessarily want it and is not the happiest at this job. Now, here's a few things. Recently, he said we may not have the same goals. I want to move in together, which I've wanted to but pressure is on more-so as my current situation isn't the best. He was also the one who brought up living together when I told him how my current situation became. Last night he told me he only wants to do that to make sure I am okay and would stay in his also not great living situation in order to save money and come and go as he pleases. He also said if he does not get a promotion in his job that he's up for in November then he wants to go back overseas for about a year, but does not want me to come. He has done a lot of traveling when he was younger and wants to go back to one of the places, and said Im not coming with him because my job is setting me up well (with pay and eventually way down the road advancement). He also doesn't like being stagnant in the same place/job for a while. What I had said was that he was the one who brought up living together, possible trips we want to go on together, and things we want to do in the future. He says he does truly love me, I am everything he wants in a woman, am his best friend (which he also said he doesn't want us to be stuck in a best friend stage). He says he doesn't want to settle down yet as we are in the low mid 20s. But I wouldn't say living together is settling down, we have a very trusting relationship and there isn't things we "don't let" the other do and I am also a very understanding person. (which yes is healthy but just emphasizing it) The thing is he is right I wouldn't go for a year. I do like my job, I love him crazy, and I am scared to lose him. I don't want to lose him. I get very emotional and have a hard time communicating when I get scared/upset like this. I'm not what a compromise would but I would be more than willing to have one. He really is the love of life, and I just don't know what I would do without him. He is the best part of my days and I think about him and every decision I make, and he says he does too . Im just really lost and need some outside words.