toughlove1993

She is not really hurting me, I told her if she says anything that hurts me that I would tell her. I don't want her to keep feeling like she has made me sad. She does really care about me- she shows this by so much of her other actions. I want to be able to deal with these scenarios if they happen again. I try to maintain a positive vibe as much as I can to make her realise I am fine.

Thank you for your comment. She does not go college, she works in a supermarket. I only work there once a week. We're very happy together, it's only on these two occasions that she has got sad. The way she describes it to me is that she hates the thought of her making me sad because she likes me a lot. I just want to know how to best deal with such situations if the occur again.

she is very open with me and generally we get on extremely well. I am trying and I told her that if she says something to me that hurt me that I will tell her. I think her openness with me means she will make comments and then regret them thinking that would be perceived as hurtful? I've told her she can feel free to share anything with me so I want her to be open. I just hate it when she gets upset because I hate to see her sad. It has happened twice, I just don't want it to start happening a lot more. I met her in the work place. She is honestly a lovely person.

I have been with my girlfriend just over a month now and since our first date we connect so well. She has feelings for me and we generally get on really well. However on two occasions now she has made comments and then she gets really upset and cries thinking she was nasty to me and that she has made me sad. For example tonight she told me people at work are telling her she is looking more rough than normal recently and as she was saying this to me she was looking at herself in the mirror and said "ugh I am looking so ugly". She said since she met me she has not been putting as much effort into her looks. Now I did not get sad at this comment, but she felt like she was nasty to me and that she made me sad and all night she was just sad. I tried explaining to her that I find her beautiful regardless and her comments did not make me sad but this did not work. She makes comments like "I like you so much and I hate that I might make you feel sad". I don't know what to do. We both like each other a lot but I don't want these situations to keep causing her to keep feeling down. This week we have seen each other 4 days so maybe this did not help. I don't want situations like this to keep occurring. What's the best way to deal with this? She is the sort of person to speak her mind so I am sure she will make other comments in the future and get sad over them again, but I want to know how to best diffuse the situations. Thank you in advance

She did call me (she did it in front of me), but just not long enough for me to get the missed call. I asked for her number initially and she said yes, but then I ended up giving mine as the things went fast. Now sure why you keep saying I've been bamboozled? This girl was showing me interest and I approached her and she was happy to exchange details. It was me that messed up and did not end up getting her number. She was showing a lot of interest signs in me, I am just genuinely curious why she did not contact me. I was certain she would contact me.

She was showing me her phone as I was telling her the number. I am 99% certain I gave her the right number.

Hi all, I hope you're all doing well. So last week this girl (22F) at work told a mutual work colleague that she finds me (30M) attractive. Yesterday I saw her and I noticed she kept staring at me so I gathered she is clearly interested. I ended up going to her and asking to get her number which she quickly said yes to but the conversation went by quick and she ended up getting my number instead and I did not end up getting up getting hers. She ended the conversation by saying "expect to get a message from me" in a happy way and I replied " I'll talk to you later". Anyway this was about 16 hours ago and I have not heard anything back. Now I know there could be reasons why she did not text back, maybe she did not put the right number down? She could also be busy, but from what I saw, she seemed quite interested so I thought she would find time to message me yesterday? Also, I hope I did not come across as though I am not confident because I gave her my number and waiting for her to message me instead of getting her number. Things just happened so fast. I am wondering did I somehow mess things up or am I over thinking this? I'll see her Saturday, I am thinking of speaking to her when I see her next Saturday and say "I was going to message you last week but your phone number had not come through". She gave me a brief call just for her to save my number but it was not long enough for the call to actually get through to my phone so I don't have her number. I was feeling good about this yesterday but now I feel a little down thinking I somehow messed things up.

I think its best I head off to bed. Don't feel so good 😢

I wont allow this to continue, if she tries it I'll shut it down. I've done the hardest part for me which is tell her how I feel. If she truly loves him and wants to be with him and respects my wishes then she'll stay away now. This hurts a lot 😢

I genuinely don't believe she'll message again. I mean I literally said I can't be her friend. When she said she loves him it tore into me 😢 and made it sink in I have no chance. I am sorry it was not a perfect message, but best I could do 😢

You think that message was easy for me to write? It was the best I could do with my current state, I told her I don't want her as a friend and that she should get in touch if things don't work out. The reason why I said "I'll still be here if you need me" was me trying to be nice because she wanted me to help out with some work related things and I had agreed. It's a polite offer, I don't expect her to get back in touch now. If she send any more random messages I'll probably just ignore her.

I finished it now. See comment above yours. 😢

I just messaged her, this is how it went. Me: Do you only see us as friends? Her: You know I'm in a relationship. For a year I do love him Me: I want you. I don't think I can just be your friend because I want you romantically. You obviously can't do anything at the moment so I feel it's best for you if I back away. I do wish you the happiness in your relationship so maybe it's best we get back in touch if things don't work out between you? I'll obviously still be here for you if you need me. She has seen the message but has not replied yet. I know I could have done better but my heart is pumping right now. It's the best I could do guys. I hope it was good enough 😢 I am really sad right now 😢

I've sent her a message just waiting for her to reply now. If she does not want to be friends then why is she messaging me? What is she after in your opinion?

I am going to message her and tell her that I can't just be her friend. I am very close to doing that right now.