(English isn't my first language so please bear with me)
Me (F23) and my boyfriend (F26) have been dating for two months now. He works part-time a lot and this means that his time we can hang out varies from day today and from week to week. In the beginning, before we were officially dating, he used to text me a couple of times a day but recently his texts have been slower and slower, to the point that I usually have to wait two days for him to text me back. This wouldn’t bother me that much if it wasn’t for the fact that I am a graduating master's student who also doesn’t have a lot of time in the week, and I usually only text him about when and or where to meet up next. So it’s kind of frustrating that I also cannot plan my week because his responses have been so slow.
Also, this was from the beginning however, he is very private with his phone which I respect because we’ve only been dating for a short while and I literally have no business being in his phone anyway. But my previous relationship, ended with my ex cheating on me, also becoming distant and also kind of hiding his phone for me. Said, ex was a gaslighting and toxic person, and also the reason why I have trouble bringing up more serious topics in conversation in a relationship because he always start a narrative and made it look like I was starting a fight when I was just calmly trying to tell him what had been bothering me.
I have never accused my current boyfriend of cheating (or been angry to him about the texting), but because of the way my previous relationship affected me I have becoming anxious about the fact that he might be cheating because of the way he’s texting behaviour has changed lately in combination with him being private about his phone on the regular. When I quickly tried bringing up in a conversation that his texting has been slower and slower, he apologised and told me that his work has been crazy lately.
I would love to have a healthy conversation about this to either find a compromise or just at least have a talk about it because I don’t want him to feel pressured to text, but I also want to stop feeling anxious like this. I’ve talked about it a couple of friends and they don’t think he’s cheating and that I should be too anxious about this, but I thought it would help to get an outside perspective on this which is why I’m making this post. Thank you for any answers in advance.
(FYI, I know I need to work on myself and my insecurities so please be nice to me lol)