This is a continuation from my last post, about my boyfriend who was confiding in a female friend of his about our relationship. He was not communicating with me at all, he would instead, go to her and tell her how horrible I was treating him. He never talked to me about anything and he never tried to leave the relationship.
So as it turns out, it was much worse than I thought. He was manipulating the situation so he could be the centre of attention and play the victim. He was gas lighting me, using triangulation to isolate me and create animosity against me. This was a man that said he loved me and wanted to have a relationship. He had this woman so furious with me and she started sending me threats. I did not respond to anything and just walked away from the situation but it is so upsetting to me that this was going on for so long. What kind of a person does something so calculated and malicious?
We had difficulties and I made mistakes but I took ownership and apologized. He forgave me and said we could move on, but he apparently was more interested in getting sympathy.
I have no contact with anyone involved anymore but I have had serious depression and anxiety since because I just can't believe that someone could be that duplicitous and vicious. Why stay in the relationship just to humiliate me? What that what he was doing? I made some recordings of him when he was verbally abusing me. He doesn't know I have them. I played them for some people and they can't believe how toxic he is. He was jealous and incredibly insecure.
I feel like I need closure or some answers, how can I out this behind me? I will run into him and his friend again at some point ...