Ariel Figueroa

Every time that i didn't want to talk or approach to people i thought that i was just making excuses for keeping me lonely and with low social interactions and maybe this was true at that time, but now i am feeling more comfortable with loneliness than never. Sometimes i did have desire to meet new friends, talk to a girl or just keep in touch with old friends but now these feelings are gone, it's like i am embracing loneliness in a way that i have never experimented and i am feeling totally ok with that, there is so much peace when you are alone that you don't want to get out of there, as i said i don't feel like meeting new people or have conversations anymore, and i am accepting this emotions more than be worried about them. My therapist once asked me if its the people who excluded me or if it was me, i replied that it could be me, but i realize that is a mix of both, i don't know if i have resentment with others, or i am being pridefull but either way i am okay with how i am feeling, not that i want to change this or enhance it, not worried or happy, just curious about it, i wanted to share this and know if anyone has passed throught this "phase" or if you have experimented something similar If this sounds too much like i am becoming antisocial i don't think so, i believe that no one is really antisocial completely, everyone needs and seeks for even a minimum of social interaction and i am not an exception, if someone approaches me to say hello or have a little talk i'll be fine with it, what i mean to say is basically that i don't have much will of interacting or talking to anybody anymore

A few years ago i had these little laziness cycles when i have no motivation of doing anything but it was rarely, but in the last months its been more frequently, my goals are still there and i know that i want to achieve them but it could be for example: Getting a good physique, Getting good grades in school, being disciplined, creating good habits, stuff like that. I don't think there is something that caused me to feel drained or something but i am noticing that my social life is decaying that might as well be part of the problem. I have good sleeping habits so that's not a problem, same with my diet i always try to eat healthy.

Thanks for the advice Cherylyn and no, i am not faith based but i think that rethink what are my goals in a specific way is going to help me, also if i get a balanced lifestyle i am sure that is going to make a huge change so i can pull of the routine for a little bit. I was thinking the same thing when you talk about cut off devices like my cellphone or pc, that could be a problem as well but i don't think that it's going to be too difficult for me stop using my phone that much, actually i was doing some research about how the social media, cellphones or stuff like that affects on the dopamine system in the brain

That souns like a good idea, like using a calendar or something where i can write my activitites through out the day, i'll definitely do that

I don't really know if it could be burnout i have not a really stressfull routine actually, and i am aware that depression is something more complex and needs to be diagnosed by professionals so i'll keep it in mind. Everything that i do i do it for a reason even if i am not always aware of that reason but then i should remind myself about what is my purpose with what i do everyday? Well i know that i want to become a better person and improving in school or in sports is the best way to do it, also i know that i want to have good habits and erase the bad ones, being a good athlete and get a better physique, having good grades,etc. Should i start thinking more frequently about why do i want all of that? because i know that its going to improve my life in general i just wonder if it's as simple as saying "I do it because is good for me". I replied to someone about my friends and social life is decaying and i know that i have to work on that too, and no, i don't have someone special in my opinion right now, i mean yes i love my mom for example but i don't see her as someone who i could tell her everything, trust issues? i am not sure but its the way i see the things

My sleep and my diet are pretty fine at the moment but it's not bad a reminder to keep those habits as well so i can intensify them, no problems with covid btw. About my friends i have noticed my social life is starting to decay slowly, its something that i have to work on too, i am not saying that i am 100% alone, i do have meetings with friends but rarely. I'll consider about those books too!

I am 19 years old, I have no job, i am studying a career, and yes i live with my mom and my grandparents but i am not so connected with them, I am still involved in sports because i do track in my college, i go to the gym and i stretch 5 times a week, maybe i am more worried about failing with homework or classes than with my workout because is weird that i miss a training session but when it happens i feel bad. For example the last week i only went to 2 sessions and missed the rest of the week because of a little injury so i had a good reason to rest a little bit maybe for a couple days, but when that time passed i still didn't train and i know that was bad because i had missed a lot, this week i feel with the energy to not miss a session like it should be, i just hope to not have that low motivation again so i can be consitent, if i work on myself a little i know i can i just need to hear advice

I've never wrote on a self-help forum ever but i think this is a good time to do it, so here we are, I am kinda trying to fit into the personal development comunity but i never had like a contact with a social group interested in the same stuff, Lately i have noticed a lack of motivation to follow my routine and doing my responsabilities or doing daily habits, things like doing homework, working out (this is weird because i really love exercising), going to classes, or simple habits like taking a shower or getting up early, i know all of that is important and it's going to improve my life but it's like when i have to do all of that my brain says no and i can't get out of that. It's not all the time, but i feel like i am in a vicious circle of trying to stop the laziness doing what i have to do, and a period when i have zero motivation of doing everything and relapsing in bad habits, i'd like you to give me some advice on how to recover a good motivation for doing these habits and achieving my goals, and also having a strong discipline so i can break this cycle as soon as possible, maybe i need to do introspection of what is going on with my life or something? or maybe i need to find a purpose so i can stay motivated with what i have to do? (which i have been trying to, but i can't find it), anything that can help me please reply and thx.