i do talk to this person and so it's not like i don't know what their personality is like and I still feel this way (they have a lot of annoying personality traits). This is a general fault with me. I am most definitely not a people person. I am shy and don't like to interact with people in general although I love to talk to specific people. So I have a personality where I either really like a person or I "hate" a person. hate may be too strong a word but the feeling is strong enough that it affects my life. Unfortunately, these feelings I get are almost instantaneous when i meet somebody for the first time. I don't know why I'm like this. I've really tried to change it and think positively about all the people that I have these sort of feelings for but it isn't working.
There have been people that I have gotten to know better and have liked after an initial dislike but these have been very few. As I've said before, I get along on the surface with everybody. I never start fights or say anything mean but I also tend to associate with these people as little as possible because I feel better when I'm not around them thereforeeee I probably do come off as being quite aloof. I'd rather be thought of as aloof though than mean and hateful.
Anyway, just getting my feelings off my chest has been helpful. Thanks for the advice