Armyguy368

So, I am getting more opinions and I know the answer. If she sees me a friend, should I mention about wanting more than a friendship or leave it as is, since I think she already knows this. We do work together, so I dont want to to be awkward as well and this is how it all started unfortunately.

I would be lying if I said no. She had asked me about axe throwing two weeks ago and we set a date and time, but it did not work. So, some say if the woman can see. you in a fun environment as a fun guy, its a step in the right direction.

Yes, its just friends as I know she is not into me romantically.

A woman I asked to get together to hand out as friends said to contact her on Sunday. We were supposed to get together two weeks ago, but things didn't work due to her being sick. She replied via text back to me "hopefully next time". I know she was sick and feel it was not a rejection. So, I asked again today and she said to contact her on Sunday. So here is next time which is this weekend. Should I call or text her: I plan to say: "Hi XXXX. Want to go throw some axes and have some fun? We could also go for a coffee or get some ice cream at XXX afterward if you want." What is the best approach? Phone or text message? I guess I feel there may the possibility of a rejection as well, which will be my last stray asking her out. Its not worth my time to keep on asking to get together when I know we would have a great time. I have another friend of mine who is a female that I stopped asking as well because it was like pulling teeth to meet.

To answer your speculations. It's because there was a connection in the past. She invited me into her life more that my coworker. She asked a lot about myself as my past relationships, what I like to do, we have the same interests, let me into her space to help with crossword puzzles, gave me high fives, etc. So of course I got involved helping her with her emotional feelings. She trusted me. So, I guess I got to involved and now things have changed. Yes, I need to move on. Unfortunately, dating for me is hard even though I am putting myself out there. I guess I felt lonely and got trapped into something I cant have.

Yes I trying to meet other women. I am on dating sites and go to match events. Joined other events, but nothing is happening. It is hard for me to meet woman. My last real relationship was 5 years ago and dates in between that never went anywhere.

She is no longer in a relationship. At the time, she was asking me questions about myself, when my last relationship was, what I like to do, asking me to help here with a crossword puzzle, the way she would keep interested in looking into my eyes (a connection), laughing at my jokes, asking me for soup that I made the night before, etc. Now that is not the same as much anymore.

She is no longer in a relationship anymore.

Yes, she was crying over her ex and the relationship ending.

I have of asking her out, but I was told to wait and to not be the rebound guy. I did tell her what dating apps I am on. I want to wait as instructed, but it may be too late when I ask here to go axe throwing with my friends. She seemed interested in going.

As i said in another post. Its hard to move on when I know i had her interested when we first met up until a month ago. I don't have anyone to take my mind off her. I must of said something or did something creepy with her for things to change. I would still like to get myself out of the friendzone. I am looking for other woman, but I dont find myself attracting woman. My last relationship was 2 years ago.

I dont have any other woman to focus my attention on currently. I have tried dating sites and dating sites but they don't work for me. I go to things I like and I dont see any woman that I am attracted to. I guess I feel lonely and I had Diana at work with a strong connection and felt she was into me. I must have said something or made myself feel creepy around her and things arent the same. I just feel that I screwed up with my chance with Diana. So I have a hard time moving on to somebody else.

So, she just mentioned she is going on dating sites and asked me which ones I use. I have been told to wait a month or two to ask her to meet my friends for an axe throwing event she sounds interested in doing. She feels she needs to fill the void with someone and its hard to hear that as I would like to be with her, but need to back off you can never force someone to be with you.

Boltrun: Yes she was crying due to loosing her relationship. It was a 3 year relationship. I feel I entered the wrong zone and listened to her about her problems. I read that a girl who likes you will hide her problems. Well, I also heard she trust me to to tell me and cry in front of me as I helped her out. But I feel as though I lost her. She used to ask questions about me, ask about my military commitment, laugh a lot before the breakup, etc. I must have done or said something for her to back away. She mentioned she is going on dating sites now. Its hard to hear as I think we get a long great (well we did). I would like to ask her to meet up with my friends, but have been told to wait. Its hard because I feel I will loose out on another guy and when I do ask her, it could be used as an excuse. I have backed off on her as well as not to push her. I guess I am looking for validation that we are only friends.

Your correct, this has been a great learning tool for me. I have started to back off and not go down to chat, but only to relieve her for lunch. She actually came to me the other day while I was upstairs to chat. I go to Florida next week for a week and this will help me as well. I will not reach out to her while I am in Florida and she can talk with her white knight.

Yes, I understand your answer. I guess she has trust in me to show her emotions.

Yes, she was crying about her ex and the relationship ending.

Thats what I did to an effect of those words. I am also stepping back and trying to be out of site more and only see her when I replace her for lunch at the front desk. Thats when she tells me more about her issue and Im not going to be an *** and walk away. Today she started to cry when talking.

Thanks for your reply. I did not send it to her and just say I hope she is doing well with her transition and left at that.

Unfortunately, I cant have lunch with her at work because I cover her for her lunch. She is the one to ask the guy at work Andrew for lunch. I would like to ask her for lunch or coffee again, since I asked before when she had a boyfriend and I crossed the line. But as you said an others to give her time to heal. But others also said grab my balls and be a man and show confidence to ask her out as well. What is your opinion on this? Also I overthing everything and Andrew may just be a guy she likes to have lunch with and their may be no relationship brewing, which is what my mind tells me at first.

Ok. I understand. Just to let you know, it is a message to her and not on social media for everyone to see. I would never do that because its in appropriate.

Yes she did. I was the one she confided in me about her situation and even showed me the woman her ex-boyfriend was seeing.

Thanks for the advise. Oh by the way, it would not be on her social media page a private message to her.

So, you may know my situation (or not), that I helped a woman at work (yes, I know and hear you that I should not get involved with a co-worker, well it happened). I helped her get through her issue with her boyfriend and being there helped her out. Well, the long-distance relationship ended, which I knew was not going to work out. So, she posted on social media that she is starting her new life. So, I wanted to reply with the following message: I know you will get through your latest ordeal. I wanted to take a moment to remind you something that may be easy to forget during rough times and I have stated to you recently. You are stronger than you think and a person with a kind and gentle heart. Your personality shines bright, and your internal and external beauty are remarkable. Your young at heart internally and externally as well as how you take care of yourself by the way you present yourself as well by staying fit. I believe in your ability to overcome any challenges that come your way. Im here to listen. As I have said to you, you have to remind yourself that you are number one! Stay strong and take one step at a time. This I think puts it out there about how I feel about her as well. I will ask her out in about a month, if I feel that its right. I have been told by many people to give her space and let her heal. To know be the rebound guy if she does accept my invitation to go out. If she says no, then I know that its not meant to be and she is not attractive to me. Time to move on, right.

SoSadd: Its been a long time that I have been in a relationship. I find that I am not attractive for woman as I am bald as well, which effects my self-esteeem. I am learning to push away from her as its her choice what she wants to do. I have been in a long-term relationship years ago and have never been married.