JustAHuman

I had some bleeding when I was 11 weeks pregnant, before that I had that pain in the lower abdomen that you mentioned.

I didn't think it twice, I went to the ER, had and ultrasound and was diagnosed with a subchorionic hematoma. I was sent to bed rest for two weeks and in my opinion that really helped.

The hematoma resolved itself and I'm currently 36 weeks pregnant.

Make sure you go to the ER so they can tell you exactly what's going on and tell you what to do so you can continue with a healthy pregnancy.

I'm 29 weeks pregnant and having a girl. Due on Feb 1/2007

Hey guys!! so, I took a test on saturday and another one tonight, and yes, it finally happened.Wooohooo!!!!!!

We'd been trying for a few months now and we're very excited.My guess is that I'm three weeks along and I have an appointment on monday with my doctor.

Just wanted to share the good news

First off, thank you all for replies. It's starting to scare me how you guys know me so well now.

Well, I didn't have the chance to invite her for a coffee, but I did something very bold if you consider that it came from me.

She was sitting behind me and we talked on and off during the whole day. I bought a necklace for her during my vacation, nothing expensive, but very beautiful and I thought she would like it. I forgot to give it to her the other day and I thought that giving it to her after that would make more than obvious what my intentions are...so that's exactly what I did.

She looked surprised, in a good sense though, but didn't give me a hug or anything since we were not that close to eachother, and it seemed she was trying to control herself. We talked for a couple of minutes and as we were talking she watched my mouth, I watched hers, and we locked eyes for a couple of seconds and smiled without saying a word.

We locked eyes a few times and smiled at eachother after that( that's always good), and I find that we're getting closer and more confortable with eachother.

What I think is that anyone would be able to understand the message that I was trying to convey based on what I did today,and to reinforce it, before I left I went to her desk, gave her a couple of candies and said bye. Then we made eye contact fron accross the room.

And to answer to your question itsallgrand, I think you're somewhat right about the fantasy aspect of this relationship, but I also think that after such a long time it could also develop into love . Deep inside I wish you're right, it certainly would be easier for me...and, better than a movie you could rent?? Is this thread that interesting??

What do you think?? Were my actions clear enough?? Did I do the right thing?? I personally think it's up to her now.

I'm working tomorrow and she will be there too...I was thinking that I might ask her out for a coffee during lunch time...

Yes I know, I only have two months to decide what to do, I've wasted so much time...

We've never hugged before, in fact, I didn't expect that reaction from her, I can tell she did miss me. The second hug was so especial, and her blushing and that nervous smile...It seemed she didn't even care there were people around us.

And you know mgirl, she's not like that with anyone, you never see her being so affectionate with anybody, not even with me even though we've been flirting for so long.

I'm in such a dilemma right now

Ok, so yesterday I came back from my vacation.

She ignored me during most part of the day, and about an hour before leaving, we locked eyes and we both smiled. She came over to my desk right away and asked me about the trip. She said that she loved my hair and then we talked about how she was gone for one month and when she came back I'd left for another month.

Then I gave her a couple of souvenirs, she was very excited. We looked into eachother's eyes and she started to get closer to me. I thought she was going to kiss me and ended up giving me a hug. She thanked me, said a couple of things about the souvenirs and all of a sudden gave me another hug.

While we were hugging eachother I said: I'm glad to see you again; and she said: I'm glad to see you too. Then, I noticed she was blushing and was smiling nervously.

I loved her reaction, it was very especial and spontaneous. She smiled all the time and seemed very excited.

At this point I really don't know what to do, whatever my decision is I'll keep you guys posted.

Sorry to disappoint you Ballys, really, I actually feel disappointed too, but, you know, now that I decided to move on with my life I feel much better, I mean, I feel as if a weight has been lifted from my shoulders.

To tell you the truth, I was waiting for something to happen between us, and then think about getting pregnant, but, it's not worth it, neither my guy nor me deserve that, we want our baby and we're working on it.

It may sound that I gave up, but no, I'm just letting things flow. I came to the conclusion that when you hang on to that which you want, you're not allowing it to move through you, you actually stop the flow.Everything happens for a reason and I'm thankfull she was sent to my path.

This is my answer to your question.

The woman I have feelings for is kind of short, has a tiny stomach pouch and actually has that pear-shape you described...and she's the most beautiful woman I've ever seen.

Hey guys, it's been a while and just wanted to thank you all for your support.

Well, after what happened back in october, I wanted to act on my feelings for this woman, I had everything prepared to tell her what I feel for her, but I chickened out. I started to think about my guy and the beautiful relationship we've had so far and I just decided not to do it.

Everything's been pretty much the same between us, the same eye contact and all those stupid things. I'm just tired of it.

She was sent by the company to another country for one month, and when she was supposed to come back I went on vacation and I'll be back in a few days, it's been almost two months without seeing eachother and I feel relieved, time away from her has been great.

I was trying to get pregnant but I had to stop for health issues, now I'm ok and I'm working on it again . I must admit I still have feelings for her, but she's getting married in june and I want to start a family, so I better leave things the way they are.

Thank you guys again.

Believe me, he's gonna love this song.

Hi everyone, it's me again.

On friday I was having a bad day at work and I was very upset. She came over to my desk to ask me something and she was kind of teasing me, but in a flirty way. My response wasn't that good actually and I'd say I was rude to her...she didn't get mad at me, though.

Later, I told her that I was sorry about earlier, and she said that it was ok, that she was having a bad day too, etc...and as she was leaving she said 'I love you still' and I said'I love you too'

That was nice, i think, and what can I say, I smile when I think about it.

Thanks for you response mgirl

You know, on a second thought, I don't even know why I'm posting about this, I mean, I know what she wants and I'm sure she knows what I want, it's just that one of us need to make the first move.

Thank you anyways

Hi everyone!

About a month ago I decided to move on and everything was pretty much 'normal' at work, then, friday last week, she came up to my desk and said 'do you need any help my love?', with a flirty smile. I wasn't expecting that since I didn't even have my hand up, so my answer was a flat 'no'.

she's been staring at me a lot and she's confusing me again. Why would she call me 'my love'...she's never done that before...

Your thoughts on this would be much appreciated.

The opinion of my friend was that latin women are trained to be subserviant and to accept their husbands affairs/poor behaviors due to the economic reliance that exists in the culture. The difference? I work and thereforeeee do not HAVE to rely on a man and hence do not have to "put up" with affairs, mistreatment, etc.

 

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As a latin woman I think what you said is also a HUGE generalization based on ignorance. We go to university, become professionals and work, thereforeeee, we don't have to rely on a man. I went to university for 5 years, I currently have a job and I also have a very loving relationship with my partner, who is also latin and has no poor behaviours...and I'm not the only educated latin woman, that's for sure.

Everything is ion your mind, what I mean is that when you really believe you are able to do something, when you believe in yourself, then you'll do it. Your limits are defined by the agreement you've made about what's possible. Change that agreement and you can disolve all limits.

Change that attitude

Don't get me wrong Ballys, It didn't bother me what you said and I do appreciate your help. I don't really know what I want, but something tells me that it's better to stay away from her...certainly, that's not my heart talking.

Anyway, I guess I just wanted your opinions on this. Now I'm off and I'll be back if something extraordinary happens. Thank you all for your invaluable help.

Well, I don't really want to date girls, I mean, she's the only one I like right now. What happened on wednesday was completely unexpected, everything was going back to normal and I was feeling ok, it was just different and even more intense.I don't think I'm overanalyzing what happens, I mean, we've been seeing each other almost every day, we say hi, we aknowledge each other, and I was kind of forgetting about the whole thing, but we've never looked at each other the way we did that day. During the last month she wouldn't really talk to me or look at me in the eye and was being rude again, but everything changed out of the blue in just a few minutes. But, I don't really understand what she said later to tell you the truth, I don't really know wht I want, however I'm trying to get a job on my field, and when that happens, I wont have to see her again and everything will be back to normal

Hi everyone, this is just a little update to let you know how I'm doing. I've been trying to keep things professional with this woman and trying to avoid any contact with her. I know she's noticed my behaviour towards her has changed and in the last month we've been cold and distant with each other.

Now, here's the thing, on wednesday, while I was at my desk and she was walking, we held eye contact like never before...it was for about 4-5 sec (an eternity) and then she smiled at me. I smiled back at her but I got nervous and looked away. Later, she came over to my desk, I was talking to a co-worker and I was talking too fast, she just laughed and said 'You amuse me whenever I come here', I said why?, and she said 'I'm sorry, I don't know, you just amuse me, but in a good sense, though', and touched my arm. What does this mean??

This is so confusing and overwhelming, and I have to see her almost every day.

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Well, nothing has happened since wednesday last week, I saw her on saturday and today and she seemed cold and distant. We just aknowledged each others presense and that was it.

Honestly, I'm tired of making just eye contact...what am I getting?? nothing!!

Today I tried to approach her, but she was again cold and distant, I mean, she knows that I have feelings for her, or at least that I like her, and I know she knows, because I make sure that she catches me staring at her. On the other hand, I think sometimes I act exactly as she does.

I'm just gonna take each day as it comes. If we are supposed to have any kind of relationship, then it will happen.

I'm thinking about writing her a note...what do you think?

I just wonder what she thinks about this whole situation ...I wont kiss my guy again in front of her, maybe that's making her feel unconfortable?

 

I still think you should talk with her, before you drive yourself mad thinking of all of the 'what ifs' going around and around in your head.

 

If you really do like her, and if this is more than a crush, if you really think she is someone you would want to get to know outside of the workplace, then you owe it to yourself to talk to her. How she responds will be very telling.

What should I tell her???....and how can I get her alone??, I mean, some people 'know' that I'm into her and they have told me that she's into me, so I kinda feel inhibited.

I'm looking for a job ion my field...should I wait until I quit my current job and talk to her then?

"Natasha, to love is to suffer. To avoid suffering, one must not love. But, then one suffers from not loving. thereforeeee, to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer, to suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love, to be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering makes one unhappy, thereforeeee, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down."

(Woody Allen, Love and death, 1975)

I just wanted to share this, It's just brilliant ...now I'm off

You know, sometimes I think she's not a bad person. Consider this, I'm also in a stable relationship with a man and I've been also flirting with her.

I mean, I know she's known all along that I'm in a relationship. For one reason or another she's seen me kissing my guy (like today), but it's not my intention to hurt her, and if I'm saying this, it's because after she's seen us kissing, she would act as if she's jealous, and I don't really wanna make her feel that way.

I mean, I'm not a bad person, but still I'm acting this way...just like her?

We met just 6 months ago...I've been with my guy for quite a few years...I don't know for how long she's been with her boyfriend.

I don't know, I guess I'm just doing too much thinking ...but, do you get what I'm trying to say??

As for saying that I heard she's engaged, actually it's a very good idea, thank you Ballys

And Patience, I've thought about talking with her, but I'd need to sum up the courage to do it.

*sigh* sometimes I wish she could see this post...don't ask me why, I think you already know the answer.

Oh, and I'm sorry for my grammar and if it doesn't make any sense what I said, I'm just tired...I'm off

Don't worry Patience, I know that this could get messy and I'm not gonna act on my feelings , but, you know, when you are into someone like this, it's really hard to forget about the whole thing, especially when your crush keeps flirting with you. I've never seen her with her fiance, but she's seen me with my guy and she acts very weird, she avoids me and doesn't even look at me, as if she doesn't know who I am.

She's been flirting a lot, smiling at me, and today I had my hand on the back of my chair, she passed by me, moved the chair, said 'I'm sorry', put her hand on my hand and let it move gently...I mean how can I move on if she keeps doing that kind of things??

Mgirl, I know it's true, I mean, It's so obvious, but as I said, I think I better stay away from her, even if she tries to approach me.

And Ballys, I bet your scent would drive me crazy too

Anyway, it's too recent, so I guess I've got to be patience. Thanks for your concern.