My ex-girlfriend and I have been broken up now for 2 months and we have been in no contact for about 6 weeks. I love her more than any girl that I have ever loved before and not calling or emailing her has been very difficult. We live in a big city, but in the past couple of weeks I have run into her 3 times. 2 of the times, she was on dates, with a different guy each time. Everytime, I ignored her and avoided the situation which maintained the no contact. I guess she ws doing what I wanted for her, but it was still hard to see her. I will not get into the specifics of the break up, because I don't want to be a poster that bores the forum with every detail of my relationship. However, we had a good relationship, chemistry, sex-life was great, same interests, etc. We started having issues and tensions that were caused by external factors....such as we were both switching careers, most of her good friends had moved from the city, etc. Basically, we both needed to grow as individuals before we could could share our lives with someone else.
I initiated no contact in order to have breathing room, give her time to grow and spread her wings, and for both of us to assess the situation, but at this point I am afraid that I am going to lose her forever. Do you guys believe that no contact is a time to see whether or not 2 people are meant to be together. I am usually a pretty strong person, but right now I feel helpless and think that breaking no contact would be more harmful then sticking with the natural course of whats meant to be will be. The way I feel it could be harmful is that at this point does she think that I have no more interest, does it make me look weak, or on the other hand do girls percieve no cotact as a sign of strength? I miss her more than anything. If I was giving the advice, I would say stick with no contact, but who says my way is the right way? I would like to hear other stories and other views of post break up and love. Am I being stubborn or am I doing the right thing??
