caitlyn

I couldn't agree more with the fact that I SHOULD dump him and I have more than enough reasons to. but for some strange reason I just can seem to let go of him. There is something about him that i just cant let go of. I'm not ugly and have a great personality and could find just about anyone but I DONT want to. I know that this seems crazy but i do infact love him.

ok here is the thing. Before taking his profile down, he did make the first move as to contacting the three girls. I DID NOT contact him first. As with the one he wants to meet, he is going to im her today with a time and place. I did not plan on iming him. (just to see if he is serious about meeting her) What is the sad part is my friend suggested that I make up a profile to see if he did infact respond to it because he told me that he didnt ever. I agreed and was TOTALLY shocked to see that he did. I TOTALLY trusted him and believed him that he just did not have the time to take it down. But he did and that is what makes him a jerk. Now I'm not saying that I'm not all that incent and am totally devious at all either. I mean I did infact try to "trap" him as you say but if he never took the bait (which now I believe almost every man would) he and I would not be in this whole situation. As far as trying to work things out, I'M the one that has been making the ALL OF THE EFFORT. because as far as he's concerned, the "ok/bad" sex is my problem. because i'm not cuming with him but am very excited. But in that effort, I've told him exactly what I like and he has done nothing to improve his end. as far as the personality goes, we get along great! More than great. except for this problem which is BOTH of our faults. and other than dropping it, I'll never really know if he was going to meet her and then I'll never be able to confess (yes i would tell him exactly what is going on) this is the first time that i've kept anything from him and I really DO love him and want to stay with him even through this stuff.

Well when I confront him about this stuff, and if he does then say that he knows it's me, I could tell him that a friend of mine (and I've recently talked to a old friend from a previous job and he does know this) put her profile up and called me to tell me all about the guys that she has been talking to (and since one of them sounded familiar I asked her what his name online was and that's how I found out it was him) so instead of her meeting him I told her that I would go and so on... Do you think that is believable?

oh i flirted. i pretended to be this girl all the way. I even threw in a few things that bothered me about him and he still wants to meet her...lol. I just am not quite positive he knows it's me. If he does, then i'm going to throw away something that i dont want to (because he'll never trust me). but then again, if he doesn't know it's me, then he's a complete dick for saying that he does want to work things out with me and then on the side try to meet other people. He just could have told me that he did not want to work on things if you know what I mean.. But here is another thing, what if I confront him and he really doesn't know it's me and then lies to me and says he knew the whole time just to protect himself? How would I really truly know unless he confesses to it?

I think it's possible he knows it's me because he was on my computer the other day and went into my history and saw the dating website. I told him i was checking for him (which I was but I was also posting the 4 profiles when I saw him on it) and he questioned me on it (the website i mean) and it's possible that i never logged out and he saw the name. But when I talk to him as her, he says things that he's said to me in the past few days and at times (8 or so in the past 2 days) i think he's saying it just to let me know that he knows it's me. but on the other hand, if he does infact know it's me and is just trying to "give me a taste of my own medicine" (and he is the type of person who would go along with this just to "f@@k with me" I could ruin a good thing (we get along great but the sex is just ok (which is why we broke up) but we're working on getting "in tune" with each others bodies because we get along so great...anyway this could potentially backfire on me. I just checked and he did infact shut down his profile after I talked to him tonight.... Now What??????

ok here goes, my boyfriend and i met through a online dating site. we both agreed to take the ads down which we did. then about 3 weeks ago we had a fight and broke up and have since gotten back together. the day we got back together he said that he'd take his ad down again. It has been 4 days now and it's still not down. so i created 4 profiles of different girls (ones that I knew he'd find cute) and he did infact reply to 3 out of the 4. I've also been chatting to him as one of the girls and he has agreed to meet her all the while telling me that he is willing to TRY and WORK things out with me. I've talked with him today and he did infact take down the ads but later on tonight, I im'd him as the other girl and he still does want to meet her. He wants to meet her this weekend and I'm up for it and this is how I would handle the situation. I would love to see his face if I asked him to meet her for drinks at a bar (like chilis, applebees, etc) and then I show up close to the time she would (conviently to meet a girlfriend of mine) and have a few drinks....Then after 15-30 minutes of him sweating just come out and ask him if he's been talking to anyone on the dating website (of course to give him a chance to come clean with what he's done) and if he doesnt ask him who this girl (name to be unsaid) is...and this girl and this girl.....etc. Would I be wrong in doing this or just dump him. I do love him and want to work on things but not quite sure I can trust him totally now because some of the things he said sounded like he may know it's truly me. What should I do? Can anyone help me on this??????